mousme: The nib of a fountain pen resting on a paper with a dotted line, captioned Write (Write)
 Work has been kind of wild tonight. I'm working the AVSEC desk and I've had weird breaches and a case of arson and one airport employee meeting a Tindr date next to one of the departure gates. I'd blame the full moon, except that that was several days ago (and that was also a bit of a wild weekend!). I guess someone just spiked the water with something tonight.

I decided to take a relaxing break from watching Law & Order: SVU by watching The Purge movies. I am partway through the second one. I watched them once before, many years ago (the most recent one is from 2016), and I'd forgotten how much the premise makes so very little sense. I think it's because whoever conceptualized and wrote it didn't really think it all the way through. I have been trying to figure out how it could work, and honestly it just doesn't. The writer put a lot of emphasis on the fact that every crime is allowed during this 12-hour period, including murder, as if murder and violence is what most people aspire to. The Purge announcement over TV/radio/etc. also makes a big deal out of how murder is allowed, and therein lies the central weakness of the narrative.

The idea, of course, is that the poor and marginalized, the "undesirables" will either kill each other off, or be killed off by wealthier people with better access to weapons and hired mercenaries or whatever. And yeah, sure, there might be some of that in reality, but I don't think it holds true of most marginalized people. If anything, they are the ones most likely to engage in mutual aid and take part in a more unofficial economy. Also, while I'm sure there are wealthy people who'd take advantage of things, I rather think they'd be too concerned about preserving their property to really get into that much trouble themselves.

Also, straight-up murder is just so unimaginative, and humanity can get super creative with their crimes. Why go outside and run the risk of physical injury when you can hack into a bank, or government systems? You could transfer a bunch of money into your accounts, or cancel your student loans (or everyone's student loans!) Why wouldn't every organized crime group arrange to move vast amounts of drugs during that night with no repercussions?

What would stop the powerful people at the helm of institutions from committing collapse-inducing crimes? A bank CEO just cleaning out his entire bank, or a government official selling every single national security secret available to foreign powers. It's not treason during Purge Night! If even a few dozen people committed large-scale crimes, it could absolutely collapse the nation in short order. 

And then there's the issue of the emergency services. According to the premise, they are unavailable during the twelve hours of Purge Night, which makes a certain amount of sense: people would target any first responders getting in the way of their crimes. If you're murdering someone, you want them dead. That all holds up until you get to the fire department. The movies don't (to my knowledge, I could be misremembering) show any kind of arson, and you cannot convince me that there wouldn't be pyromaniacs and overexcited teenagers setting fire to shit all over the place. You know what fire does? It spreads. So why aren't entire neighbourhoods wiped out by fire on Purge Night, since there are no firefighters to keep the blazes under control?

Another thing that bugs me about the movies is that they focus exclusively on urban settings. It definitely works better for the plot, but a lot of the USA is either rural or at least from small towns. Does the Purge even happen there? Would people attack farms? You could set fire to all of the USA's food supply and, again, cause some pretty significant societal damage.

In short, the writer did not think this through, and just created a hyper-violent but ultimately unimaginative premise that doesn't really prompt the audience to think about the broader societal issues underpinning the story. It just boils down to "murder and violence bad," as if we didn't know that already.

Okay, thank you for bearing with my rambling thoughts about The Purge franchise. ;) Catch you on the flip side, friends!
mousme: A picture of Wol from Winnie the Pooh, holding a note that reads "Gon Out. Backson. Bizy. Backson." (Back Soon)
Yes, I am back-dating this post by one hour so it shows up as being written on April 5th instead of the 6th. It's nearly 1am but it doesn't count as tomorrow because I haven't gone to bed yet. My reasoning is flawless and I will not be taking questions at this time.

So, I may have bought quail at the bird auction. Ahem. They are SO CUTE. I will attempt a longer post about this tomorrow because a lot happened today and I desperately need to go to bed and get some sleep, even if it's crappy sleep. But yes, I bought quail. The lot I bid for and won was a mix of three males and three hens, and they appear to be in pretty good health, although it's obvious the females have been overbred because their backs are in various stages of denudement. Poor biddies. I have separated them for now to give the poor hens a break from their overzealous boyfriends, and the six of them are in quarantine in the laundry room where they will stay for the next two weeks. I don't want them in contact with the cats just in case they're carrying bird flu, which cats are highly susceptible to (at least the current variants of H5N1 floating around out there). 

I visited Dylan and Sarah, who very kindly supplied me with a couple of days' worth of layer feed and some hardware cloth to put over the Rubbermaid bin in which the birds will be spending their quarantine time, and I gave them a bunch of booze that I decluttered from my kitchen last week. The booze was still good, it just wasn't likely to ever get drunk at my house, so now it has gone to a good home where it will be appreciated. 

I came home and got the quail settled and then did the Quaker announcements, and then had the misfortune of checking my emails, all of which had semi-bad news about the house purchase. Namely, all of the emails involve my having to jump through more expensive and flaming hoops in the hopes of getting the financing completely approved for the house. The desktop appraisal now costs $40 because there's acreage, even though it's a DESKTOP appraisal, meaning no one is actually physically going out to the property and they are all staying at their DESKS, so I can't see how adding some land on top of that makes their job THAT much more difficult or complicated. They gave me the option to decline the extra charge, but of course that means they won't perform the appraisal, so they're holding my house purchase hostage unless I pay them more money.

Also, my beloved father insists that he can't get a pdf statement of his bank records because his bank "doesn't give him the option." Except he and I use the same bank, and I have personally obtained pdf statements of my bank records from the online banking site. IT'S NOT HARD. But my father is eighty-three years old, and this is kind of what happens once technology gets a little bit more complicated than you can wrap your brain around. I have noticed it happening to me too with things like TikTok and video editing software: I can manage the very basics, but the bells and whistles are beyond me unless someone sits with me and takes the time to explain things. So I think the best but unfortunately inconvenient solution is to go to Montreal tomorrow and physically show him how to do it, and to also have him sign the letter saying he is giving me the money in person, so that I can then just scan everything myself as a pdf to send to my mortgage broker.

*lies on the floor*

And my mortgage broker still wants me to provide my quarterly statement for my RRSP for the first quarter of the year, which the bank HASN'T PRODUCED YET. I am not sure how she thinks I can influence an entire financial institution to move up their timeline for documents just for my benefit. News flash: they do not give two wet shits about me or my piddly little RRSP. 

*rips out hair and rolls around on the floor for a bit*

So yeah, Today has been a bit of a mixed bag. XD


mousme: A text icon, dark green text on pale green, that reads There is no normal life. There's just life. (No Normal Life)
So because the last two night shifts are 12-hour weekend shifts, the halfway mark of my week of night shifts is actually on Friday. Exactly 32 hours of work left before I'm off for two weeks, since I traded my weekend day shifts with a coworker.

I am excited to get through my night shifts and into next week, even though I'm going to be super tired. Between the night shifts and the terrible quality of sleep I've been getting, I'm going to be a bit of a basket case during the week. However, I am excited to have the professional organizer over to help me get the kitchen whipped into shape. I have some ideas about how to move some things around to make things more effective, and I'm hoping she will be able to help me streamline the rest of it to be as functional as possible. I would really like to bring my herb garden into the kitchen, too, although I don't know if that will even be possible. I guess we'll find out.

The international news is currently awash with headlines about the 7.7 magnitude earthquake in Myanmar. I just saw that the United States Geological Service's (USGS) predictive modelling estimated the death toll could exceed 10,000 people, and that losses could be greater than the value of the country's gross domestic product, which is WILD. How does a country recover from that kind of disaster? I'm actually surprised the USGS is still functional enough to provide services internationally. I assume that Doge will be decimating them shortly. *sigh*

I am struggling a little to find good news in the world these days. Right now everything feels like it's on fire all around me. So even though my own life is going comparatively well, I am struggling with survivor's guilt about that. I'm also worried that the fact that my life isn't going nearly as well as I think it is, and that it could all fall apart at any time. Apart from the fact that I have exactly one year and two days left in my work contract, which means I could very well be unemployed right after that, there's a non-zero chance that my contract could be ended early if the Conservatives get into power and decide to force more cuts in the government. Hell, the Liberals could do the same as well. It's also increasingly likely that we're going to face some sort of violence from the USA, ranging simply from economic violence all the way up to and including invasion/annexation.

It actually reminds me of a post I saw earlier today, by someone named nitewriter:

 
Me: I don't get it. I thought I was doing a lot better than I was a few years ago. I'm like 10 times more on top of things than I used to be. How does everything feel terrible now?
 
The Tiny Me in OSAH-approved Hi-Vis Gear Who lives in my head and pulls all the levers: Boss, it's the fascism. You're completely gunked up with cortisol due to the fact that your entire daily life is now underscored with a haunting awareness of the rapid erosion of your rights, dignity, and any and all social safety nets, and you're also bearing witness to the most vulnerable people immediately being persecuted. This creates a natural stress response that basically means you're going to continue having memory and organizational problems, as well as emotional imbalances.
 
Me: BUT I HAVE A BULLET JOURNAL AND I MEDITATE NOW.
 
Tiny OSHA Me: BOSS, THE FASCISM.
 
So, yeah, it all feels sort of like that. I actually tried bullet journaling a while back, and it didn't work as well as I wanted it to, which is kind of weird because the person who invented bullet journaling did it in order to manage his ADHD. I'm actually curious to see if any of the ADHD management techniques that have failed for me over the past few years might not work better after I get a CPAP, supposing the CPAP actually makes a difference in my energy levels and ability to focus and retain information.

I really liked the concept of bullet journals, and I got very excited when I saw all the pretty ways in which people on the internet were customizing theirs, but I got bogged down in perfectionism and preparing my pages in advance started taking up so much time that I would put it off until I was "too far behind" the arbitrary deadlines I'd set for myself. That's mostly because even when I picked the easiest pretty layouts I could find, my artistic grasp exceeded my reach. I am really, really shit at visual arts, and so even very basic stuff takes me forever to accomplish. So if I do decide to go back to a bullet journal (or BuJo, as the kids were calling it a few years ago) I will likely avoid trying to make it look aesthetic and stick to just plain writing. Anyway, I don't plan on trying yet another journaling method at least until I've had my very own functional CPAP for a few months.

I probably shouldn't hang so many hopes on the CPAP. If I turn out to be among those for whom it's not effective, the disappointment will be excruciating. I'm just excited at the prospect of no longer constantly feeling like absolute garbage. I have no idea for how long I've had sleep apnea, but I've felt like the aforementioned garbage for years now, although it got noticeably worse at the beginning of the pandemic, so five years at least now. I assumed at first that the brain fog was just due to aging and ADHD combined, and then it kept getting worse. At multiple times I thought maybe I'd had an asymptomatic case of Covid (in spite of the fact that I mask everywhere in public) which had resulted in long Covid that had fried my brain. Of course, there's no way to test that theory as far as I know. I've been vaccinated multiple times, so the antibodies will already be present in my system. Right now the sleep apnea seems to be the more likely culprit.

Okay, time to get back to work. Catch you on the flip side, friends!
mousme: A turquoise twenty-sided die that has landed on "1." The caption reads: "Shit." (Natural One)
 I had my follow-up with the naturopath today, and let's just say I am, uh, unconvinced by her treatment options right now. All of my bloodwork came back in the normal ranges, although some of the numbers were what would qualify for "subclinical" levels that might possibly be causing some ill effects. That being said, she used all of the buzzwords and keywords that set my teeth on edge from self-appointed internet experts, all high cortisol this and inflammation that, and her prescription is to follow the Mediterranean diet and take some curcumin supplements.

So, yeah. I dunno.

She did think that the sleep apnea is the likeliest culprit for my symptoms, at least, once I told her about the test. She suggested I see how I feel first after the supplements and then after I (hopefully) get a CPAP to see what makes a difference. I am not super optimistic about the supplements, but we shall see, I guess.

I didn't sleep terribly well today. I napped for about an hour before I met the naturopath, and then I slept but only until about 3:30pm, which made for some rather broken and unsatisfying sleep. I will likely be a broken record for the next few weeks, but I am no longer surprised (if "surprised" is even the right word) that I don't feel rested after sleeping. I did some digging around the internet to see if there was anything I could try at home to help me keep breathing during the night, but from what I can see there's not a ton that will help beyond actually getting a CPAP. I already wear a mouthguard (because yours truly grinds her teeth in her sleep), which obviously does diddly squat for the apnea (I was wearing it during the sleep study), and the only other options appears to be surgery, which obviously is not an option *before* a CPAP, nor do I particularly want to have surgery. If nothing else, surgery appears to be widely understood to be less effective than a CPAP and should only be considered if the CPAP doesn't work. I am considering a body pillow to help position me a little better to keep my airways open and it should also help with my stupid aging body that likes to throw out its back on a semi-regular basis.

Anyway, in political news, our current Prime Minster made a statement today that made it clear in no uncertain terms that Canada is done being the USA's closest economic ally. It's going to be really interesting to see how that plays out both during the election and once a new government is in place. Will the Conservatives decide to play ball and act as if everyone is Team Canada? Or are they going to try to play to the more extreme parts of their base and argue that we should be playing ball with the USA? Public sentiment right now appears to be riding a wave of weird patriotism in the face of the Trump tariffs and the threats to make us the "51st state." 

Pierre Poilievre is in a really sticky situation now, because he's been associating with right-wing extremists for years now, and is up to his eyeballs in suspicion. The Premier of Alberta, Danielle Smith, also sabotaged him quite thoroughly by getting caught on a recording saying he was the best choice for Prime Minister because he was the best person to work well with Trump. Of course, Poilievre and Trump are trying to walk that back now. Trump has been going on at length and quite unconvincingly about how he wouldn't like to work with Poilievre and would just looooove Carney, and Poilievre is trying to pass himself off as a stern negotiator who somehow doesn't align with Trump's priorities at all. I suppose the people who want to be convinced will let themselves, but the rest of us see the charade for what it is.

The USA is getting more terrifying by the day. There are so many stories now of tourists and green card holders being grabbed by ICE and taken to detention centres with no one knowing their whereabouts. They grabbed a Fulbright Scholar the other day and held her in an undisclosed location and refused access to her lawyers despite their repeated attempts to locate her. Earlier today there was a news story about a woman in Georgia arrested because she had a miscarriage. She was accused of "concealing the death of another person," and "abandonment of a dead body," and could face up to 10 years in prison. This was a natural miscarriage at 19 weeks, so still relatively early in the pregnancy, and just a fucking tragedy, not a crime. 

There's also been reports of the Trump administration cancelling the delivery of food to food banks across the nation. The food is already in the trucks, packed and ready to go, so the money is spent and the food will simply rot where it is. There is no reason to do this except to be extra cruel. Much like in Canada in the past few years, food bank usage has seen a pretty stark increase, with increasing numbers of people struggling to both keep a roof over their heads and put food on the table. These cancellations mean people will literally starve. The cuts to government services and the general chaos caused by DOGE also guarantees that tens of thousands of people just won't be getting the already paltry sums that they needed to survive. The USA is setting up its most vulnerable citizens to die, and it is horrifying to watch.

There has been some grumbling online about why Canadians can't just "find a way" to keep going to the USA for tourism, and it kind of baffles me that anyone doesn't understand why people don't want to take the risk of being dropped in the equivalent of a black site for anywhere from a few days to the rest of their lives. What vacation is worth that? The USA has made it clear that no amount of "legitimate" documentation will protect you if it decides you've broken some completely arbitrary rule that isn't written down anywhere. They can just decide that you're an enemy of the state and imprison you.

Okay. Now that I have thoroughly depressed myself, I'm going to wrap this up and finish out my night shift. Catch you on the flip side, friends!
mousme: A text icon in black text on yellow that reads The avalanche has started, it is too late for the pebbles to vote (Avalanche)
The consultation with the behaviourist went quite well today. Well, technically yesterday now. She told me that even though the clinic calls the position "behaviourist," most of them are actually social workers, which checks out. For one thing, I can see how that skillset would apply pretty well to determining whether or not a patient is adhering well to new guidelines, or how likely they are to change behaviours and stick to that in the future. For another, I can also see how many people might find it off-putting or even stigmatizing to have to talk to a social worker for this. After all, social workers are for foster kids and drug addicts! Obviously social workers have a much wider range of skills than that and engage in a wide variety of activities with people from all walks of life, but I assume that most people think that you have to be in some kind of trouble in order to have to engage with a social worker.

Anyway, we had a nice chat for an hour and a half all about me. The behaviourist was almost exactly my age (also born in '79 but at the end of the year) and had a very similar sense of humour to mine, so we had a pretty good time overall. She asked me a bunch of questions, most of which I'd already covered with the registered nurse and with the dietitian, but that's fine, I understand that they have to dot their t's and cross their i's, and make sure there aren't any significant discrepancies between my answers, among other things. We commiserated over night shift work, and agreed that "outsidey" is a great word for people like me who enjoy doing calm activities outside, because "outdoorsy" suggests someone who gets up at 4am in order to go hiking along the Appalachian trail for six weeks. She also had an adorable black and white cat named Hobbes, who is apparently an antisocial crank, and I love him.

Long story short, the behaviourist is very happy with all the changes I've already implemented (eliminating alcohol, caffeine, and NSAIDs, drinking flat water instead of fizzy water, incorporating more protein into my diet) and is overall satisfied that I am ready to move to the next step in the process, which is the Pre-Surgery 2 class. They are held every two weeks, but when I get to go will depend on whether the classes are already full in the next few weeks. Obviously I am hopeful that it will be sooner rather than later, because I hate waiting. I actually told the behaviourist that, and she laughed and wrote my quote verbatim in her notes.

After that, I passed out in my bed until 6pm. Theoretically that made for 7.5 hours of sleep, but my Fitbit informed me that it was closer to 6 hours, and I still felt like steamrollered shit afterward. Of course, now I know why that is. I wonder if, now that I know for sure I have sleep apnea, the fact that I still felt like garbage after sleeping might not have been partly due to the nocebo effect. I really hope not, because I have at least three to four weeks before I can get a CPAP machine. It will be two and a half weeks before I see the sleep specialist to discuss my results, and only after that will I be getting a prescription for a CPAP machine, supposing that's the treatment they decide to go with. I assume it will be, since I'm pretty sure it's considered the gold standard of treatment for severe obstructive sleep apnea. I know that there are lifestyle changes that get recommended (lose weight, stop smoking), but that's typically not enough if your case is severe enough, but I don't think my case is so severe that would warrant surgical intervention. I mean, it might be, what do I know? But my relentless googling has so far led me to this conclusion. Anyway, I am not looking forward to an extra month of shitty sleep, but I guess I've made it this far in life, wo what's another four weeks?

Later today I will be having my follow-up appointment with the naturopath. Now that I know how severe my obstructive sleep apnea is, I'm pretty sure that's the main cause of my brain fog and general stupidity, but I'm interested to see what she has to say on the topic. 

I haven't been talking much about politics here of late, and maybe I should, but sometimes the sheet idiocy/lunacy of it all feels a little much to bear. The latest debacle has been pretty spectacular to watch. Turns out several highly placed members of the Trump administration, including J.D. Vance and Pete Hegseth (the Secretary of Defense) created a fucking Signal chat in order to discuss their top secret war plans. A Signal chat. I CANNOT. Anyway, someone in that group chat (I think Hegseth but it's unclear to me if it was him or someone else) added the editor of The Atlantic to their group chat while they were texting about their plans to bomb Yemen, specifically the Houthi rebels. Apparently there were more emojis than I personally would feel comfortable with in a char about top secret war plans. /o\

*weeps in COMSEC and INFOSEC*

I worked for over ten years in a national security setting. We weren't allowed to wear smart watches where I worked, and had to lock them inside lead-lined boxes along with our cell phones before going to work. I can't begin to imagine the level of horrifying non-compliance you'd have to engage in in order to use fucking Signal to text your cabinet buddies about your attack plans on enemy fighters. All of our top secret information was (and presumably still is) held on secure servers with a discrete encrypted network that is only accessible by a select few, and all those computers are kept behind multiple layers of physical as well as cyber security. While a Signal chat theoretically benefits from end-to-end encryption (I use it myself), it is by no means anywhere near as secure as official government crypto equipment. Did I mention that some of these people were in Russia while they were texting each other? Thereby almost guaranteeing that Russian hackers or other agents might access that information?

I can't imagine that this is simply incompetence. The magnitude is simply too great. Every employee at every level gets briefed on communications security and information security. You have to sign multiple documents swearing you will never share that information and that if you do, you could face penalties ranging from losing your job all the way to going to prison for the rest of your life for treason. There is no way not a single one of these people didn't at one point think "Hey, maybe we should stick to official channels when we discuss this stuff?" Of course they will not suffer any repercussions for this, because the Trump administration is made of goddamned Teflon, but you will never convince me that this was just some sort of silly mistake by people who don't know what they're doing. It's treasonous sabotage dressed up to look like incompetence so they can have plausible deniability.

In Canadian news, we're having a federal election. Yay.

Right now this is looking like it's Mark Carney's election to lose. He's not my favourite choice, but he appears to be appealing to Canadians as The Guy who can stand up to the Trump tariffs and give the USA a run for their money. The Conservatives have been turning blue in the face trying to criticize him the way they did with Trudeau, even trying out the phrase "the Trudeau-Carney Liberals," but it just doesn't seem to have any staying power right now.

The Conservatives were in a much better position when they were just bashing Trudeau, because he made for a convenient scapegoat. However, Carney is a more difficult target for them, and it's increasingly exposing Pierre Poilievre as a one-trick pony who doesn't actually have any meaningful policy plans or even much of a political platform other than "Trudeau Bad." The Conservatives started with a 25-point lead in the polls in January, if memory serves, and as of yesterday the Liberals now hold a six-point lead. That HAS to sting if you're Poilievre. Honestly, if he loses this election, I can't see any alternative except for him to resign as the leader of the Conservative Party. He's now lost twice to the Liberals, and if the Liberals come in with a majority I think he won't have a choice. It will also mark ten years of the Liberals being in power after ten years of the Conservatives being in power, which means the Conservatives will need to some serious soul-searching if they want to continue being taken seriously as a political party.

The poor NDP (the party I vote for the most often) are in crisis. They started out as a leftist party and have been steadily creeping toward the centre for years now, which I personally think is a mistake. They've accomplished some great things thanks to their Supply and Confidence Deal with the Liberals after the last election (a universal dental care program and the beginnings of a universal pharmacare program, among other things), but have made some baffling decisions too, like tearing up their Supply and Confidence Deal at a time when it kind of felt like nothing was at stake politically, which made no sense to me at all. They are increasingly slipping behind in the polls, and I think that after this election their leader, Jagmeet Singh, will also have to step down. My own opinion is that the NDP needs to go back to its roots and not try to appeal to the centrists, and also that they need to reverse their stance on gun control. I have thoughts on how to re-vamp our gun legislation, and I think that if the NDP lighten up about ALL GUNS BAD they could actually make significant inroads in rural, working-class areas. Alas, that doesn't appear to be their trajectory for now.

All right, I think I've blathered enough for tonight. Catch you on the flip side, friends!
mousme: A text icon in black text on yellow that reads The avalanche has started, it is too late for the pebbles to vote (Avalanche)
So the latest round of diplomacy at the White House ended up as a bullying/shouting match between Trump, Vance, and poor Vlodymyr Zelensky. I think Marco Rubio was there too, but he didn't have anything useful to say. Zelensky left empty-handed, and if it wasn't obvious before that Trump is firmly in Russia's corner, it should be patently obvious now. I watched a little bit of it, and what the media are qualifying as a "shouting match" was more a case of Trump and Vance loudly talking over Zelensky every time he tried to advocate for his country.

It boiled down to "You didn't kiss the ring enough, so now you get nothing." It was so gross, but also I think that it was a long shot for Zelensky to walk away with anything but his pride once this was done. I'm livid on his behalf, and also incredibly worried, because if Ukraine falls, it will tip the political and economic balance in the world in a huge way. It's not for nothing that Ukraine is called the "breadbasket of the world." Not that it's been able to produce a ton of agricultural exports while it's been at war, but having it fall under Russian control would be a global disaster.

In Canadian news, my province elected Doug Fucking Ford for a third term with another fucking majority. Apparently the people of Ontario were just salivating for four more years of corruption, scandals, greed, graft, and more gutting of our healthcare and education systems. We're already teetering on the brink of disaster, and this will definitely put us over the edge. Covid and bird flu will break our already fragile hospital system, and Ford has already taken a hatchet to all the programs that support vulnerable kids across the province.

I'm so frustrated. The only glimmer of hope that I have is that Ontario tends to vote the opposite federally of what they vote provincially, so this might, MIGHT mean that the Conservatives will have a harder time getting in during the next federal election, which will be happening at some point in the pretty near future. The Liberal leadership race is still underway, although it looks like Mark Carney, the former Governor of the Bank of Canada, is the frontrunner for that race. I am not thrilled about him, because he leans VERY conservative, but he's still better than the shitheads currently in charge of the Conservative Party. Not by much, granted, but still better. I'd prefer an NDP win, but apparently Canada is still too racist to vote for a party whose leader isn't a white dude. We don't even like voting for women, as a rule.

In the meantime, I've been mainlining Critical Role some more so that I don't spend all my time having ontological crises about the state of the world. All the episodes that I have left are five hours long, sometimes more, and the finale is eight and a half hours long, so I still have literally over a full day's worth of watching to do. I just started Episode 117, which is essentially the Beginning of the End. If anyone remembers what regular television used to be like, it's like the ramp-up to Ratings Week/season finales, when television shows would produce episodes with increasingly high stakes and cliffhanger endings in order to hit the climax right when it was time for Nielsen ratings to boost their viewing numbers. Except this is a lot more organic because of course Critical Role just streams online, so there's no need to create artificial suspense. The nature of D&D games creates its own suspense, because unless you're a tiny group with no audience willing to play marathon sessions for 12+ hours (and I have been part of those groups in the past!) you have to stop the session *somewhere*, and that usually means a cliffhanger of some kind. Needless to say, the stakes have never been higher in a Critical Role campaign, and 

So right now Critical Role is keeping me sane. I will have to find something else to take its place when I finally finish the current season. I'll probably go back to audiobooks, since I have a long tbr list in all my various apps. It's the only "problem" with marathoning Critical Role--it's incompatible with reading or listening to audiobooks, and my reading streak from January has taken a serious hit. Since I have about 28 more hours of listening I figure I'll probably be done by the end of next week, and then I'll get properly back into my books.

mousme: A text icon in black text on yellow that reads The avalanche has started, it is too late for the pebbles to vote (Avalanche)
I haven't been talking all that much about *gestures broadly* the world at large, mostly because I am tired and frightened and overwhelmed, which  of course is exactly what they want. The shock and awe tactics the current US government are using are specifically designed to create feelings of helplessness in the populace so that no one resists what they're doing, and it's unfortunately been working, including on me, and I don't even live there.

I've lost track of all the horrible things they've done. The latest appears to be a vote to slash Medicaid funding, which means a lot of vulnerable people are going to simply die. There's continuing chaos in all the departments affected by DOGE's interference, and there are anecdotal reports coming from all quarters about people whose support cheques of various kinds are either entirely missing or else have been brutally slashed. People are losing their homes because they can't afford to pay their rent for their houses or apartments or the residential facilities where they've lived for years.

I refuse to despair, but I am angry and a little at a loss as to what I can do from over here in another country. I know that I am ready to help any and all of my US friends if they tell me they just need to get away. I'm also ready to fight however I can if the US makes good on its threat to take over Canada. I don't know how they're planning to do that, whether it be through more "normal" channels of economic pressure (tariffs, sanctions, whatever) or just outright military invasion, but either way I don't plan on sitting idly by when that happens.

KK and I are already working hard to divest ourselves from as many US products as possible. Our economies are so intertwined that it's next to impossible to do this completely, but wherever we can, we're trying to buy local, or at least Canadian, and where it's not possible to buy Canadian we are looking for products from Mexico, Europe, and whatever other country is willing to sell to us instead. I am hopeful that Canada on the whole will perform a similar pivot in the coming months. It won't be easy, and in fact it will likely be incredibly messy both politically and economically, but it's long past time we loosened our ties to the US. We're far too dependent on them, and they are no longer a dependable all, but an unstable, volatile country that is rapidly descending into fascism and collapse. And at the rate they're going, they are going to drag us down with them.

I'm a little disappointed in myself, actually. There's a saying that turned into a meme over the past few years which says something to the effect of: "If you've ever wondered what you would do if you were in Germany during the rise of Nazism, congrats, you're doing it now." And although I never answered that question to my own satisfaction because I understood that you can't know for sure what you'll do in a situation until you're actually in it, I'm not sure that sitting impotently behind my keyboard was high on my list of possibilities.

It feels analogous to "I didn't think that, when the apocalypse came, I'd still have to commute to work and pay rent."

*sigh*

The movies all make it look so much more glamorous and heroic, don't they?  And of course, intellectually I understand that movies are not real life, not even a little bit, but I think that somewhere in my heart I kind of hoped that it would be more like the movies, because simple narratives with a beginning, middle, and end and a clear villain are so much easier for my mind to grasp. Right now there are horrible people in charge, but apart from that handful of people all I see is a vast ocean of victims, and the only difference between them is how complicit they are in their own victimhood. There's a huge difference between the people who are selling out their friends, their neighbours, their family in the hopes that it will keep them safe or even afford them a little bit of privilege, and all the people who are being sold, but in the end they're all mostly victims regardless.

For what it's worth, I do think that this is temporary. I do think that eventually democracy or some more just form of government will be restored. I just don't know how long it will take, and I do know that in the meantime tens of millions of people are going to suffer, and far too many people are going to die. We will not be able to turn back the clock and restore those people to life, or undo the harm that has been done. At best there will be a fuckton more generational trauma to deal with.

And all this because the US is being run by men whose daddies didn't love them enough. Like, I wish I was joking, but honestly it does seem to me as though both Musk and Trump are the products of awful fathers who didn't know how to love their children (and likely themselves had fathers who were awful and didn't love them), and now they in turn have passed on this toxic sludge to their children. It's so frustrating to think that a few years of therapy might have averted all of this.
mousme: A text icon in black text on yellow that reads The avalanche has started, it is too late for the pebbles to vote (Avalanche)
Night shift does weird things to my brain, sometimes. I don't remember what I dreamed about after I went to sleep this morning, but I woke up with the old quote from Mr. Rogers flitting about my brain:

'When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, "Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping."'
 
 

I'm sure I'm not the first person to think about this or to even say it (write it?) out loud. In fact, I'm sure I've seen it elsewhere on the internet. That quote was Mr. Rogers speaking to children, just as his mother had spoken to him when he was a child. Children are the most vulnerable in every community, and the least able to protect themselves, and so the world can often look incredibly scary to them. It's good to provide not only safety, but a sense of safety. "Look! There are always people who will want to help you," is very reassuring when you are a small person with little to no control over your life.

It's important to remember that this was said for the benefit of children. It's not for those of us who are grown up, who are adults in our own right with varying degrees of power and agency. Once we are adults, we have to become the helpers, we have to BE the helpers. We no longer have the luxury of being passive in the face of suffering when we have the option to help.

And this is what I grapple with on a pretty regular basis. What should I be doing? What am I capable of doing? Am I doing the right thing? Am I doing enough?

I have a lot of empathy for Chidi from The Good Place, who was so stressed out by perceived ethical dilemmas that he was paralyzed with indecision and ended up actually causing harm, even though his intentions were good. I spend probably more time than is good for me thinking about doing things rather than actually doing them, and in my case it's because I have way more ideas than I have time and energy, and if I were to try to do it all I'd have to quit my job and also never sleep again, neither of which are particularly practical. ;)

I have been trying to do what I can, pouring a fair bit of effort into my Quaker Meeting, but also doing my best to pull together a local mutual aid group. I've been trying to get involved with local efforts to help the unhoused population, but the shift work makes it really difficult to commit to volunteering. Most organizations want you to commit to a regular weekly schedule, and of course I can't do that, because there are lots of weeks when I have to work at the hours I'd be volunteering. In fact, I haven't found a single organization so far that doesn't want that, which is super frustrating. I understand why: it's so much easier to schedule people when they commit to a regular weekly time slot. However, that means that most volunteering positions are suited to retirees or people who are independently wealthy and don't have to work, or a small percentage of working people who can find evening or weekend volunteering positions.

My anxiety about this falls into the same category as my anxiety about whether I have too much money. As a Christian, I should be embracing a life of simplicity and giving everything else to those in need. And, of course, my silly brain has conniption fits about What It All Means. I suspect this may be a part of the undiagnosed-but-probably-autism, which wants Clear and Concrete Numbers and Specific Parameters, and of course adhering to Christianity is a fraught, swampy mess instead. But yeah, I routinely have qualms about whether I'm living a good life. Like, I have a lot of stuff. A lot a lot, as the kids like to say these days. I live in a nice house. Yes, it's a rental, but it's a nice house. Am I spending an immoral amount of money on myself? Is it moral to have savings when others are unhoused?

Of course, I feel weird even asking these questions, because it sounds even to me like all I'm doing is asking for reassurances. No, Phnee, it's totally fine to have savings, you're still a good person! *pat pat* Which is not really what I want, but it's also kind of what I want. I just want someone to give me an exact number, which of course isn't possible. It's not like you're a good or moral person if you have, say, under $1,000 in your savings, or that you're immoral if you have more than $5,000. There's definitely an argument to be made that you can't be a good or moral person if you're a billionaire, because there's no way to become that rich without exploiting and harming people. I am not a billionaire, which feels like a bare minimum, frankly, and I doubt any billionaires grapple with these thoughts at all.

*lies on the floor*

I don't know where I'm going with this. Mostly that I'm deeply insecure about all my life choices. How do normal people not spend an inordinate amount of time worrying about this stuff?

Anyway, I am going to try to get through the rest of my night shifts without any more existential crises or paradigmatic collapses. Wish me luck!

mousme: A text icon in black text on yellow that reads The avalanche has started, it is too late for the pebbles to vote (Avalanche)
 I said on BlueSky that it feels like I'm watching the USA hurtle at top speed into a volcano, and there's nothing I can do about it. Every time I blink, Trump or someone in his administration is doing something else that is either batshit insane, incredibly detrimental to the country, or both. Both seems to be the preferred method these days.

I didn't post about this earlier, but there was a really tragic mid-air crash on Wednesday night when a Blackhawk helicopter collided with a passenger plane carrying about 64 people, resulting in a total of 67 deaths. Even more tragically, the plane was carrying an entire team of young figure skaters, children by the looks of the photographs, maybe in their mid-teens. There were some more famous figure skaters who performed in the 1990s, but the number of kids on board that airplane is heartbreaking.

There's no explanation yet for the crash. They've recovered 41 bodies and expect to recover the rest, but are being hindered by the weather. I was working that evening, and even though no Canadian aircraft was involved, it was a Bombardier jet (made in Canada), and of course we expected there to be ripple effects from the airport shutting down, so we were very busy for the last hour of my shift. 

So of course, given the political climate, things are metaphorically blowing up about this crash. Trump immediately came out and blamed it on DEI (for future me, in case you're confused about acronyms when you read back: it stands for Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion), because he's a racist POS and can't keep his mouth shut for five fucking minutes. He also refused to go to the crash site. I believe the quote was: "I have a plan to visit, not the site. Because you tell me, what’s the site? The water? You want me to go swimming?" So, you know, full of empathy, as usual.

Conversely, his opponents are already losing their minds and engaging in the worst kind of conspiracy theory nonsense. Some are pointing at Trumps (definitely disastrous) decision last week to fire the head of the TSA and to dismantle the Aviation Security Advisory Group as the reason this happened. While I think that this will absolutely lead to *more* accidents like this in the future, it's literally only been a week. There just hasn't been enough time for new, laxer, security measures to be implemented. Others are saying it was deliberate, because Blackhawk helicopters don't fly at that altitude, the pilots are highly trained, aircraft are equipped with TCAS (Traffic Collision Avoidance Collision System) and that should have prevented the crash, all of which is mostly nonsense. Blackhawk helicopters can fly at any altitude (they are helicopters, after all), and yeah, this one shouldn't have been where it was, but shit happens. TCAS is not great at short range and is often turned off when in the airspace above an airport. Also, anyone who thinks the US military has suicide pilots on standby is out of their minds.

And NO, this isn't a "diversion" to distract people from the nomination hearings for Robert F. Kennedy Jr. (whom I've affectionately nicknamed Brainworms McGee), which are an absolute dumpster fire so far. This is just a horrific accident, and supposing the investigation isn't botched or sabotaged, the explanation will come out eventually, likely long after this tragedy has stopped making headlines.

Actually, someone wrote a laugh-so-you-don't-cry report of the two day nomination hearings, and I may post the transcript in another entry for my own amusement because it's on Facebook, and God only knows how long Facebook content will still be accessible if it doesn't kowtow to the fascists south of the border.

In the meantime, the administration is continuing its unchecked rampage in dismantling/tearing down every government body and regulatory agency it can get its stubby little hands on. Just today there are reports that Elon Musk--or more specifically, some of his minions--have restricted government employees' access to computer systems (high-level employees, that is, career civil servants who perform crucial functions), and also tried to access the government's payroll system, where in theory he and his newly named department have no business poking their noses. This seems to be another attempt to stop government spending after the last aborted attempt via executive order (which was thankfully rescinded within 24 hours), meaning they could "turn off the spigots," aka just stop sending money to people receiving government benefits for all sorts of reasons.

Trump also announced that, starting tomorrow, there will be a 25% tariff imposed on goods from Canada and Mexico, and a 10% tariff on goods from China. Experts have already warned that this will have a devastating effect on the US economy, because neither industry nor individual consumers can absorb that much of a price increase. This means demand will plummet, and several key industries are likely to grind to a halt. This will of course have a terrible impact on Canada too, because we rely a lot on the buying power of the USA, but it's going to be much, much worse for the USA, at least in the short term. I really hope Canadian businesses can find a way to pivot to other markets, or that the government may step in to help small and medium businesses not go under while they figure out the next steps.

The fact that a tech billionaire is sticking his fingers in the pie of the treasury is wild. Either he's doing this with Trump's blessing (terrifying) or he's gone rogue (even more terrifying). Either way, things seem to be snowballing, or maybe spiraling, much faster than I ever imagined they could. I remember learning about how fast the Nazis took over once they got enough momentum in the lead-up to World War II, but it's a very different feeling to be watching something eerily similar unfold right under our noses.

We either haven't learned from history, or some people learned *too well*, and now we are doomed to repeat it.


mousme: A picture of Wol from Winnie the Pooh, holding a note that reads "Gon Out. Backson. Bizy. Backson." (Back Soon)
I'm mostly back on a Monday to Friday schedule, even though I am working shifts again. I work two weekends every two months, and am rewarded with nearly two weeks off every two months as well. The rest of the time, though, I work Monday to Friday, albeit different hours than most people. For three weeks I work from either 8 to 4 or 7 to 3, and then I work a week of evening shifts, and then a week of night shifts plus the weekend, followed by five days off and then one weekend of day shifts.

So Fridays have resumed being the last day of the work week for me, for the most part, and Mondays are the first day of the week, which means that I'm being slowly reintroduced to looking forward to specific days of the week (e.g. Friday). It's a kind of novel feeling, even after two-odd years of working a regular schedule, because I spent so many years just dreading the first day of whatever "block" I was working and not associating that with any specific day of the week.

To be fair, there's very little dread these days. I'm still very much in the honeymoon period of this new job. My coworkers are all varying degrees of nice so far, and while there's the usual array of personalities with some who are more inclined to work hard than others, no one is actively an asshole. More importantly the manager appears to be a genuinely good guy, and if there's anything I have learned in 17+ years of working in the government, it's the manager that makes or breaks a department. So I'm cautiously optimistic that, as long as the current guy stays here (and he's fairly young and doesn't look like he's dying to climb further up the ranks right now), I should be okay. I'm currently looking at a minimum of 19 years before I can retire, so I'd really rather not spend all that time working for people who make me miserable. Should I be able to rise above poor management? Probably. But it's not a skill I've mastered, and I doubt I will ever fully master it before I'm either of retirement age or dead, whichever comes first.

KK is currently dealing with her manager, who is just kinda casually ableist and is therefore making her life extra hard. KK has had to either work from home or take sick days the past little while because her arthritis has been making it incredibly painful for her to go into the office three days a week, and her manager is taking umbrage. She (the manager) has moved into "performance management" mode on this, and is now officially documenting how KK is not being compliant with the Treasury Board directive on working three days in office. She has written down that the reason for KK's failure to attend is the dog and my work schedule, which is absolutely not true. The epileptic chihuahua and my shift schedule make things more complicated, for sure, but KK has been working around both those things, and what causes her actual absences is her chronic pain, which is made exponentially worse by having to go into the office as often as she does.

I am livid on her behalf, of course, but luckily KK is well versed in her rights and obligations as a federal employee, and is now taking action accordingly (the "performance management" conversations officially began yesterday). She's in an unrepresented position, meaning she doesn't get to have a union representative, but she still has all the same rights, so she's planning on talking to the Ombudsperson for Workplace Health and Safety today. If it comes down to it she can file a complaint based on a Human Rights Violation, but hopefully it won't come to that. She works in a tiny office (10 people or so), and it's never great to have a totally adversarial relationship with one's manager.

The manager says that she's been getting complaints from other employees about KK not coming in, for which I have no sympathy at all. As a manager, it's up to you to manage your employees, and that includes managing their expectations and telling them to mind their p's and q's when it comes to other people's business. If KK was having actual performance issues that had a direct impact on their work, that's one thing, but whether she does her work from home or the office has no bearing on the quality of said work. Apparently the manager's boss has also remarked on it, but again, as the manager it's up to her to explain that KK has a medical condition that needs accommodation. Of course, that's not what the manager has been doing and has instead thrown KK fully under the proverbial bus, which is infuriating, but hopefully they will get that straightened out soon.

On top of it all, the manager is faking concern that KK "doesn't do well" psychologically when she's at home all the time. In her capacity as a mental health professional, I guess. *eyeroll* She has absolutely zero basis for this opinion, of course. She herself is of the opinion that "no one does well on their own," which is, you know, her opinion, man. She has no qualifications to make mental health assessments, and so I am just adding that to the category of casual ableism.

That manager is lucky I'm not in their office, because I'd be obligated to go throttle her for the benefit of humanity.

In other news, we're going to see at least one more house tomorrow, possibly two. I say possibly because my real estate agent says the second already has two offers on it and may be conditionally sold by the time we get to it. It's not surprising, because it's a "turn-key" house on 1 acre of property at a very competitive price for the market. The price honestly made me wonder what was wrong with it. ;) I think it's probably because it's actually a really, really small house. Like, not quite Tiny House proportions, but really on the small side.

The other house has a lot less property but looks to be bigger, and also seems pretty turn-key by the looks of things. That being said, it's about $40k more. Still within my price range, but much more in line with real estate prices in the area these days.

It would be nice to see both houses and see if either or both would be a good fit. This isn't truly an ideal time to be buying a house for me, since I'm a little on the strapped-for-immediate-cash side of things, but if we find a house that we absolutely fall in love with I can probably swing it. I just have to get my shit together and hope that the deposit required isn't horrendously high. I'm honestly still a little insulted that there's a deposit required in Ontario, when that wasn't at all a requirement when I was purchasing a house in Québec. What's so different between my home province and this one, I'd like to ask?

In the meantime, a third house has cropped up! So I have asked if we can see that too. Our poor real estate agent will be run off her feet tomorrow. Usually we see one house and that's it, but tomorrow it might be as many as three. Yikes. It's January. I have no idea why there are suddenly a bunch of houses on the market within our price range that actually look like they could be a decent fit, but I am not complaining. Well, I am complaining a tiny bit, but mostly because I really wanted another couple of months to save up more money for a deposit. But mostly I'm not complaining. Mostly.
mousme: The face of a green woman forest deity against a black background (Green Woman)
There's a screenshot bopping around the internet of someone asking: "What's the most boomer complaint you have?" And the reply is "Stop making me make accounts. A lightbulb that changes colours shouldn't require an account. A TV speaker shouldn't require an account."

This is one of the most relatable things I've seen of late, because I have had to create so many accounts for things that honestly should not require any such thing.

I have an account for my computer mouse and keyboard, I have an account for several "services" relating to my television, an account for groceries, an account for Canadian Tire, Home Depot, a couple of restaurants from which I order food sometimes, my Fitbit, my bus pass... I could go on and on and on.

This is, of course, because all of these companies want my data. It started out I don't even remember how many years ago with those points/loyalty cards. Remember when there were physical cards for those things? The companies figured out they could a) keep their customers coming back with loyalty programs, and b) track where people were spending their money. There have been stories over the years about how advertisers know more about us than our own family members, like that time Target allegedly knew about a teen pregnancy before she told her father (that story is likely untrue, but a lot of women reported that when they were "trying" for a baby they started receiving a lot more pregnancy and baby-related materials despite not making any significant changes in their shopping behaviours yet).

These days, it's all about the almighty Algorithm. The Algorithm gets talked about like it's a living, breathing, sentient being, and that's maybe not too far from the truth. It is something that learns and grows and is designed to try to read your mind, to predict what you might want to see next, but it's also designed to influence you to want more things, too. On social media it will feed you posts that it wants you to engage with more, and on websites like Amazon it's designed to make you want to buy more things. Sure, we can joke about the algorithm suggesting toilet seats to us for months after we bought the only toilet seat we're likely to need for several years, but the fact remains that it will absolutely suggest "related" things to the books and other doodads that we're already buying, and I have not been immune to the "Oh, that's a good idea!" effect of having it in front of me, the same way you impulse buy a chocolate bar at the checkout at the grocery store, only worse, because the website remembers everything.

Worst of all, we've gotten to a point where we can't opt out. I seeds from a Canadian retailer a few months ago, and found myself mysteriously signed up for something called Shop, which is now being used by a bunch of retailers that I frequent online. Okay, fine, it seems to be a weird combination of PayPal and Wayfair, and it's not my favourite, but if I have to have this account in order to get seeds, I guess it's fine. But then suddenly I couldn't track my orders without downloading the Shop app on my phone (very sus) OR allowing it access to all of my emails, including read/search privileges (SUPER sus). Like WTF is up with that? NO, THANK YOU. Why do you need the ability to search through my emails, Shop? Hmm? And it's the same with so many other things. Buy a robot vacuum? You have to create an account or it won't work (I had one of the early ones in 2006 or so, and it worked just fine because smart phones were barely a blip in those days and "there's an app for that!" was a cute new catchphrase). Want your landlord to make a repair? Make an account on the new residents' portal! Want to control your own thermostat? FUCK YOU, MAKE AN ACCOUNT.

*lies on the floor*

I'm fed up with being The Product (as in "if the product is free, then you are the product"), especially as I am more often than not paying to be the product these days. I would like to live my life without being in forty thousand databases, and I would like to do that without scrubbing every trace of myself from the internet and going to live in an off-grid hut in a swamp and becoming a bog witch. Surely there must be a happy medium somewhere?

Anyway, that is my rant for the day. Carry on. See you on the flip side!

mousme: A text icon in black text on yellow that reads The avalanche has started, it is too late for the pebbles to vote (Avalanche)
Weirdly, I forgot that DW existed when I promised myself I'd start my journaling again this year. To be fair, I spent most of my journaling time on LiveJournal over the years, and DW for the longest time was my "backup account." So I naturally gravitated back to LJ rather than DW, and was only reminded of it a couple of days ago.

So, now I shall resume my old habits of posting here and cross-posting to LJ. LJ has updated its UI, too, and I have cultivated a deep and intense hatred for it. ;) It's incredibly unintuitive and has lost a lot of the functionalities that the old UI had, including being able to just create entries either using rich text or my old friend html. God, I miss being able to use html on the internet on a whim.

I made a point of importing the entries I made on LJ since the beginning of the month, and that way I'll have them here in case anything happens to my LJ, not that I think it's in immediate danger of being deleted or anything.

Today's post is going to be short, because I've just finished a week of night shifts and had to stay for five extra hours today because two coworkers called in sick and they desperately needed someone to cover during that time. So needless to say, I am tired. I picked up groceries on the way home, then put them away, grabbed a quick snack of leftover tourtière, and then crashed for a three hour nap. Once I'm done updating here it'll be time to get the dogs sorted out before bed: I now have a routine of giving the Brittanies a quick brush/comb behind the ears so they don't develop mats, and then they get their teeth brushed. I wasn't good about it before, but we've been brushing their teeth pretty much every night for a year now, and I think it's doing everyone a world of good to have their oral hygiene better taken care of, especially Rika, as chihuahuas are prone to tooth decay. So, yes, soon it will be "time for ears and teefs!"

Then I will fervently hope that the enterprising rabbit pair who likely live in my neighbour's yard won't decide to go for a nightly stroll right past my back yard. The sight of them inevitably unleashes a torrent of excited Brittany screaming, and no one except the dogs enjoys that.

Tomorrow morning I have a woefully early start for Quaker Meeting, and in the afternoon I have the dual role of playing "tech support" (i.e. hosting the Zoom Meeting) and being a representative of Ministry & Counsel for a Claremont Dialogue we are having to get people's contributions for the State of Society Report. For those who are unfamiliar with Quakerism (which is most people), a Claremont Dialogue is a kind of worship sharing that takes the form of a circle process. We go around the circle and everyone gets a chance to speak what's on their mind, ideally letting themselves be guided by God/Spirit/the Light/etc., and a little silence is maintained after each sharing. There is no back-and-forth, and participants are encouraged to share their own leanings and not to "respond" to whatever others have shared, as the goal is not debate, but the pooling together of experience. I quite like the format, and it has led to some pretty transformative experiences for a lot of people over the years. Circle processes in general are pretty great for healing and processing and moving through difficult things.

So that's it for now. I've also been posting off and on on BlueSky, mostly progress pictures of my current knitting project, my first-ever sock! I posted a few preliminary pictures on my LJ too, but BlueSky is where I've been doing most of my wailing and gnashing of teeth, because turning a heel is an absolute bear. I am going to pick it up again when I'm less sleep deprived and have the time to devote to concentrate on it, maybe tomorrow afternoon after the Claremont Dialogue.

Catch you all later!
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I am not particularly given to hero-worship, luckily for me, but there has been more than one artist whose work I admired a lot in the past who turned out to be a pretty terrible person later on. Orson Scott Card, J. K. Rowling, and Joss Whedon spring to mind, along with any number of others.


An article came out in Vulture either late yesterday or early today about the accusations of sexual assault against Neil Gaiman. I'm going to put the rest of this post behind a cut just in case, because the article itself gets into some gruesome subject matter, but for what it's worth I don't plan on providing any graphic details or anything like that.


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Those of you who are more recent arrivals to this LJ (i.e. less than ten years ago, ahem) may not know that I actually have crazy nutbar prepper tendencies at heart. One of the reasons I've always wanted a hobby farm is to be more self-sufficient. I don't have any delusions about rugged homesteading and becoming 100% self-sufficient, because that's just not feasible, no matter what the Libertarians would have you believe. ;) Nonetheless, being less reliant on The System(TM) has always been an aspiration of mine.

For the past five or so years, I kind of let that dream die a little. I didn't have the money to put down on a property, and after the Saga of Cruella de Froot Loops (named thusly by [livejournal.com profile] blackmare, actually), I kind of went into a bit of a tailspin about everything from finances to keeping the house clean to being organized about anything at all. I was a bit of a trash fire for a few years, although I did mostly keep myself from completely falling apart. During this time I stopped all of the "emergency prep" I used to engage in, and actually made my way through my stash of food *right before* the pandemic hit, because of course. The one time I could have used an emergency stash. I had to laugh about that one, because the irony was THICK. I also didn't engage in any kind of gardening, because my yard is tiny and it's mostly just been where the dogs go to do their business. I kept telling myself that where I was living was "temporary" and that I'd be buying a house "soon," and here we are five years later, and I am still renting the house I had to move into in a rush and which still doesn't really feel like home.

I was hoping to purchase a small property in 2020, and we all know how that turned out. I have a small hope that maybe this year will be the year I can do it, but it will depend a lot on whether the housing market will have calmed down enough that I can afford what I want. I have only my income to depend on for a mortgage, plus the down payment I've been saving for (which is okay but not as much as I'd like it to be), and while my salary is decent (more than many, but rather less than the median salary in Canada), the price of real estate is far outstripping the buying power of a single salary these days. If I were a much handier person, it might be worth buying a fixer-upper and putting some sweat equity, but I don't exactly have the skills for that at this point, and my plans at the beginning of 2020 to learn all about carpentry and home renovation got scuttled HARD by the pandemic). I'd likely be biting off more than I can chew, given that I have pretty limited amounts of energy on my days off work, and I don't think KK would enjoy living in a house that's one giant reno project.

This whole subject is never far from my mind, but it has been weighing on me especially heavily since the pandemic hit. I have been acutely aware of how vulnerable we are, especially in urban centres. I have no energy alternatives other than the grid. I am pretty much entirely reliant on the current supply chain for everything from toilet paper to dog food to clothing to fresh vegetables. I have a single rain barrel in my back yard which is currently frozen solid, so no reliable water source other than city plumbing.

I have been watching the beginnings of the Omicron variant wave with mild alarm, is the short version.Dooooooom... )

Like the title of my post says, it's not all doom and gloom. In spite of the above rant, I am actually cautiously optimistic about this coming year. I have plans to try to pay down my debt, maybe finally buy the property I've always wanted, and to learn new skills. I want to learn to spin (wool, not the exercise), and some basic carpentry, and to start thinking about planting a vegetable garden again (although I keep hesitating about starting seeds, because what if I move in the summer and have to leave it half done?). I take great delight in my dogs (although KK informs me that Pixie peed in her car on the way home from doggie daycare today, oops), and am really looking forward to doing more training with them this year.

I think that we're mostly going to make it through all of this terribleness, although not all of us will, and not all of us will come out unscathed even if we do make it. I worry about my friends and my family, and I worry about society at large, too. In all the scenarios I had envisioned in the past, it honesltly never occurred to me that I would have to keep going to the office during the apocalypse. ;)

It kind of reminds me of this:

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On that note, dear friends, I will leave you for tonight. In the words of R.E.M.: The world serves its own needs, don't misserve your own needs. Be well. <3
mousme: A text icon, white text on green, that reads Zathras trained in crisis management (Crisis Management)
 Those of you who are more recent arrivals to this LJ (i.e. less than ten years ago, ahem) may not know that I actually have crazy nutbar prepper tendencies at heart. One of the reasons I've always wanted a hobby farm is to be more self-sufficient. I don't have any delusions about rugged homesteading and becoming 100% self-sufficient, because that's just not feasible, no matter what the Libertarians would have you believe. ;) Nonetheless, being less reliant on The System(TM) has always been an aspiration of mine.
 
For the past five or so years, I kind of let that dream die a little. I didn't have the money to put down on a property, and after the Saga of Cruella de Froot Loops (named thusly by blackmare, actually), I kind of went into a bit of a tailspin about everything from finances to keeping the house clean to being organized about anything at all. I was a bit of a trash fire for a few years, although I did mostly keep myself from completely falling apart. During this time I stopped all of the "emergency prep" I used to engage in, and actually made my way through my stash of food *right before* the pandemic hit, because of course. The one time I could have used an emergency stash. I had to laugh about that one, because the irony was THICK. I also didn't engage in any kind of gardening, because my yard is tiny and it's mostly just been where the dogs go to do their business. I kept telling myself that where I was living was "temporary" and that I'd be buying a house "soon," and here we are five years later, and I am still renting the house I had to move into in a rush and which still doesn't really feel like home.
 
I was hoping to purchase a small property in 2020, and we all know how that turned out. I have a small hope that maybe this year will be the year I can do it, but it will depend a lot on whether the housing market will have calmed down enough that I can afford what I want. I have only my income to depend on for a mortgage, plus the down payment I've been saving for (which is okay but not as much as I'd like it to be), and while my salary is decent (more than many, but rather less than the median salary in Canada), the price of real estate is far outstripping the buying power of a single salary these days. If I were a much handier person, it might be worth buying a fixer-upper and putting some sweat equity, but I don't exactly have the skills for that at this point, and my plans at the beginning of 2020 to learn all about carpentry and home renovation got scuttled HARD by the pandemic). I'd likely be biting off more than I can chew, given that I have pretty limited amounts of energy on my days off work, and I don't think KK would enjoy living in a house that's one giant reno project.
 
This whole subject is never far from my mind, but it has been weighing on me especially heavily since the pandemic hit. I have been acutely aware of how vulnerable we are, especially in urban centres. I have no energy alternatives other than the grid. I am pretty much entirely reliant on the current supply chain for everything from toilet paper to dog food to clothing to fresh vegetables. I have a single rain barrel in my back yard which is currently frozen solid, so no reliable water source other than city plumbing.
 
I have been watching the beginnings of the Omicron variant wave with mild alarm, is the short version. We've already seen in two years what the waves can do to the supply chain, and because Omicron appears to be so much more contagious than anything we've seen to date, I am pretty confident that we're going to see some pretty massive disruptions in the coming weeks and months. We haven't yet hit the two-week mark from the Christmas holidays, which is when we're going to see the fallout from everyone getting together in other people's homes and sharing turkey, potatoes, and viruses. Even before this fallout, the medical system is straining under the weight of Omicron, and it's likely going to break down in a significant way once the numbers really start to climb. I don't mean that it's all going to just collapse in a heap, but I do anticipate that it will be next to impossible to get emergency medical care because all the emergency rooms and all the ICU beds and all the ventilators will be taken up by COVID-19 patients.
Doooooooom... )
I think if you break your leg, you will be waiting for upwards of 48 hours on a gurney in a hallway because half the doctors and nurses are out with COVID-19 or because their family members have it and they have to quarantine, and then you are very likely going to catch it yourself from breathing in the same air as the doctors and nurses who were ordered to come into work even though they're symptomatic (it's already happening in Québec), or the other patients all around you who might be masked and vaccinated but are still coughing not ten feet away from you because the ER is so crowded. I think if you have a heart attack there may not be enough paramedics to get an ambulance to you in time, or if they do get to you in time there may not be room in the ER for you, or you may not get a much-needed ICU bed.
 
If you have a life-threatening condition that's not an emergency, you are a lot more likely to die. An underreported statistic has been the number of dialysis patients who died during the pandemic because they couldn't go to the hospital for their treatments, or they got COVID-19 and died from those complications. If you need chemotherapy or radiation therapy, you will be told to wait because the risk of infection is so much worse than the risk of waiting a few more weeks. But sometimes cancer only needs a few more weeks to do its worst. Everything will be about risk management: do I risk getting COVID-19 in order to get treated for my life-threatening condition and risk dying anyway?
 
For those of us fortunate enough to not have chronic conditions and fortunate enough to not sustain an acute injury or become acutely ill with something unrelated to the pandemic, we have other things to worry about. Omicron is so contagious that it's all but guaranteed to run rampant through all of the employees considered to be in "essential services." That means that every single "essential" business is going to be facing even worse staffing shortages than before, and that means a massive disruption to both goods and services. The people making the things won't be making them--they will be sick, or quarantining with sick loved ones. The people packaging and shipping the things will also not be doing that. There will be fewer people to transport the things, fewer people to put the things on the shelves, fewer people to ring them up at the cash register or deliver them to your door. There will be far fewer people to fix things when they go wrong: plumbing, electricity, basic emergency repair. There will be fewer people running electricity plants (hydro, nuclear, coal, whatever), fewer people running oil rigs, fewer people doing maintenance on city infrastructure like roads and pipes and cell phone towers.
 
Society isn't going to collapse all in a heap, but I think it's not beyond reason to imagine that we are in for a rough first half of the year. I think we're going to have power outages (a day here, two or three days there), issues with potable water, and shelves in the stores that are a lot more bare than what we've seen even to date. I think that the timing is especially terrible, since January and February are by far the coldest and most unforgiving months of the year where I live.
 
So I'm going back to my old prepper roots. I've been stocking up on staples, and putting emergency supplies aside in case we lose power. I haven't stocked up on potable water yet, but that's my next step. I have a small stash of shelf-stable food which I'm adding to with every paycheck, and backup batteries, and about four months' worth of dog food (there's already been shortages a couple of times). I am pretty confident that we can heat the living room if we need to, and if worse comes to worst we have friends who have offered refuge at their little farm about an hour away from here (with available wood stove for heating and the ability to "survive" off-grid for a while).
 
I want to be wrong about this. In six months' time I want to come back to this post and point and laugh about how paranoid I was, and to have all of my friends make fun of me and never let me live it down.
 
Like the title of my post says, it's not all doom and gloom. In spite of the above rant, I am actually cautiously optimistic about this coming year. I have plans to try to pay down my debt, maybe finally buy the property I've always wanted, and to learn new skills. I want to learn to spin (wool, not the exercise), and some basic carpentry, and to start thinking about planting a vegetable garden again (although I keep hesitating about starting seeds, because what if I move in the summer and have to leave it half done?). I take great delight in my dogs (although KK informs me that Pixie peed in her car on the way home from doggie daycare today, oops), and am really looking forward to doing more training with them this year.
 
I think that we're mostly going to make it through all of this terribleness, although not all of us will, and not all of us will come out unscathed even if we do make it. I worry about my friends and my family, and I worry about society at large, too. In all the scenarios I had envisioned in the past, it honestly never occurred to me that I would have to keep going to the office during the apocalypse. ;)
 
It kind of reminds me of this: 
 
 
On that note, dear friends, I will leave you for tonight. In the words of R.E.M.: The world serves its own needs, don't misserve your own needs. Be well. <3
mousme: The silhouettes from MST3K with the written caption Oscar Wilde only wished he was this gay (Oscar Wilde)
I thought I might have something more interesting to talk about today, but after a series of small time-wasting blunders on my part I ended up working from home today, so there's even less to report than usual on that front.

I DID have a meeting with my DG and her right-hand woman (I don't recall her exact title right now), and we accidentally opened a huge can of worms between the three of us concerning one of the procedures we have in place, so we may need to do a Privacy Impact Assessment. I shouldn't be this excited about it, but I am a nerd and this sounds super interesting even if it's a lot of work, AND it means a project I can take on that might give me some needed visibility at work among the higher-ups, so it really is pretty exciting!

Apart from that, Peggy spent the day at daycare and then took a nice long drive with me while I went to pick up my ADHD meds (my pharmacy is on the other side of town, but I'm going to switch to something more local to me this week, I think--it's getting ridiculous to have to drive an hour and a half just to pick up meds), and got rewarded with a Puppuccino from Starbucks as a reward for being a very good girl. She fell asleep in the car on the way home, and it was all very adorable.

Tonight is D&D! We're switching weeks for my Tuesday game, and then switching to Friday nights starting next session, because we're all getting to be old and Fridays are easier for those of us who have to get up in the mornings for work afterward. This will very likely help me with my going to bed late issue at least some of the time, because I've found it harder to readjust my bedtime(s) after D&D nights. So, here's hoping!

In other news, I am despairing at the children on the internet. There has been a hue and cry among the younger internet denizens about how there shouldn't be overt displays of kink at Pride, because OMG THINK OF THE CHILDREN! Impressionable underaged beings shouldn't be exposed to such horrors as large men wearing studded leather, it might warp their minds! *sigh* One person, and I wish I were making this up, declared that:

 
"Pride should be a cool, queer-friendly block party you can attend to meet with organizers and get cute shirts. Everyone
should be able to attend. It should be safe and uncontroversial."

Oh, tiny child of the internet, way to miss the entire fucking point. Pride MUST be controversial. Pride was built on the bloody, broken backs of incredible transgender women and men, of queers and faggots and fairies who were willing to give up everything in order to be SEEN. Pride isn't about acceptance, Pride is about visibility. It's about standing up and refusing to let ourselves be invisible, or be shoved back into the closet. We are not here to cater to the sensibilities of the straights, or to middle-class corporate America. Pride will not be sanitized for your convenience or their comfort. Respectability politics is straight-up bullshit, and I will. not. tolerate. it. in my presence.

I am particularly exasperated by this person saying Pride should be "queer-friendly," as if it's our straight neighbours inviting us over to their Labour Day barbecue and hoping we'll show up dressed "appropriately" and not do anything too gauche like hold our partner's hand in public. *rolls eyes forever* 

ARGH.

Anyway. That is my rant on the topic. You may all carry on now. ;)
mousme: A picture of Darth Vader, captioned My Fandom Destroys Planets. (My Fandom Destroys Planets)
I'm sure you're all sick of reading my complaining about work, so I figured I may as well give a little nod to the pandemic that, yes, is still ongoing.
 
Part of me feels as though I should have been documenting "my" pandemic more diligently this whole time, but since I haven't, the point is kind of moot. My personal experience barely seems worth noting, anyway. I kept working, I kept going to work, I got a temporary promotion, the only thing that changed was the frequency with which I went to the grocery store and I basically stopped visiting with my parents. Otherwise, I lived under a rock before, and I live under a rock now.
 
Ottawa is going back into the "red zone" tomorrow. For those playing along at home, my province has instituted five colour-coded zones. The first is green ("prevent"), the second is yellow ("protect"), the third is orange ("restrict"), the fourth red ("control"), and the fifth is grey ("lockdown"). The criteria for red are described thusly:
 
Limit close contact to your household (the people you live with) and stay at least 2 metres apart from everyone else.
 
Do not visit any other household or allow visitors in your home. If you live alone, you can have close contact with only one other household.
 
Only go out for essential reasons, such as:
 
work
school
groceries
pharmacy
health care
helping vulnerable people
exercise and physical activity
 
Work remotely, where possible.
 
 
Anyway, that's where we are. Canada's vaccination rollout is a shit show, and somewhere in that shit show I may possibly be getting my first jab sometime in the next month. I am an essential worker, I am considered "operational" and I can't work from home, but I'm not a front-line worker by any stretch. So it could be as early as April, but it could be as late as July, and it feels like there's nothing solid to hold onto these days. Like most people, I don't do well with uncertainty. If someone told me that my firm vaccination date was July 31st I wouldn't like it, but at least I'd know, and I'd be able to plan around it.
 
Oh well. It is what it is.
 
I should go to bed. I have another terrible plan to get up early and do things tomorrow morning (not the recycling, but actual work stuff), and I don't really want to play the I-told-you-so game again. I guess we'll find out if I win this round tomorrow evening. :P
mousme: A view of a woman's legs from behind, wearing knee-high rainbow socks. The rest of the picture is black and white. (Default)
I'm sure you're all sick of reading my complaining about work, so I figured I may as well give a little nod to the pandemic that, yes, is still ongoing.

Part of me feels as though I should have been documenting "my" pandemic more diligently this whole time, but since I haven't, the point is kind of moot. My personal experience barely seems worth noting, anyway. I kept working, I kept going to work, I got a temporary promotion, the only thing that changed was the frequency with which I went to the grocery store and I basically stopped visiting with my parents. Otherwise, I lived under a rock before, and I live under a rock now.

Ottawa is going back into the "red zone" tomorrow. For those playing along at home, my province has instituted five colour-coded zones. The first is green ("prevent"), the second is yellow ("protect"), the third is orange ("restrict"), the fourth red ("control"), and the fifth is grey ("lockdown"). The criteria for red are described thusly:

Red Zone! )


Anyway, that's where we are. Canada's vaccination rollout is a shit show, and somewhere in that shit show I may possibly be getting my first jab sometime in the next month. I am an essential worker, I am considered "operational" and I can't work from home, but I'm not a front-line worker by any stretch. So it could be as early as April, but it could be as late as July, and it feels like there's nothing solid to hold onto these days. Like most people, I don't do well with uncertainty. If someone told me that my firm vaccination date was July 31st I wouldn't like it, but at least I'd know, and I'd be able to plan around it.

Oh well. It is what it is.


I should go to bed. I have another terrible plan to get up early and do things tomorrow morning (not the recycling, but actual work stuff), and I don't really want to play the I-told-you-so game again. I guess we'll find out if I win this round tomorrow evening. :P
mousme: A view of a woman's legs from behind, wearing knee-high rainbow socks. The rest of the picture is black and white. (Always Summer)
Sorry about the feelings-vomit in the previous post. I will try to be more upbeat about things, as much as I can.

I was out and about a bit today, for the first time during my vacation (other than the jaunt to Montreal to see Captain America). I got up at a relatively decent hour, but then kind of procrastinated during the morning on getting anything done. Still, I saw that my basil plants were threatening to bolt again, so this time I went at them viciously with a pair of scissors. I'm hoping I was fast enough, but a few of the stems have turned woody, which tells me I may not get more leaves from them. I took some cuttings the other day in order to try to propagate the basil, but they are looking pretty wilted, so I'm not optimistic. I seem to have the darnedest time getting basil to keep growing. I don't suppose any of my gardening people have tips or tricks for me?
More gardening stuff )

Books, and a review of Marie Kondo's Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up )

Pulse

Jun. 13th, 2016 01:56 pm
mousme: A view of a woman's legs from behind, wearing knee-high rainbow socks. The rest of the picture is black and white. (Queer)
I count myself lucky that I mostly don't find news stories emotionally overwhelming, no matter how upsetting they are.

Yesterday was no exception to that rule. I am incredibly sad, very angry, and also a little frightened. I'm not surprised, except maybe at just how much destruction one man was able to wreak.

For those of you who've been away from every single form of media out there for the past two days: the night before last, a man went into a gay night club (Pulse) in Orlando, Florida, and shot 50 people, wounding 53 more. It's being called the largest mass shooting in U.S. history (not technically accurate, since Wounded Knee had more victims, but apparently that somehow doesn't count?), and may well be the largest-scale massacre of LGBT people since the Holocaust.

The gunman allegedly called 911 before the attack and claimed allegiance to ISIS (who have since gleefully claimed responsibility for it all), but what's come out is that he was an outspoken homophobe, as well as a domestic abuser. He got upset about seeing two men kiss in public a few weeks ago, and somehow that translated, over time, into the decision to take up a weapon and go into a space that was supposedly meant to be safe for the queer community, and turned it into a death trap.

It's a complex issue. It's not a radical Islam problem, but rather a problem of toxic masculinity, of homophobia, of a culture that promotes violence as the ultimate solution to solving your issues. Don't like gay people? Kill 'em. Before you say that this man is an outlier, let me remind you that in the U.S. there are dozens, if not hundreds, of existing and proposed anti-LGBT legislation, ranging from laws saying where we are allowed and not allowed to relieve ourselves, to laws allowing people to fire us without repercussions, to outright killing us (thankfully the Sodomite Suppression Act was blocked, but the fact that it existed at all is pretty telling). All of American culture seems to be hell-bent on eradicating anything or anyone that's not heterosexual, cisgender, and white (let's not forget that this happened during "Latin Night," when most of the club-goers would have been of Latin and Black extraction), and its politicians are the goad, driving that culture inexorably further. (I'm talking about the U.S. because that's where this is taking place, but I know Canada isn't exactly blameless either)

This is also a gun regulation issue. I know that some of my friends are perfectly responsible gun owners who enjoy a wide variety of activities: hunting, target shooting, etc. Guns don't kill people, people with guns kill people. I will not get into the nitty-gritty of gun control in this entry, especially as it's not my particular specialty, and I know people who are passionate about this issue who are much better at debate than I (not difficult, I suck at it) will doubtless come up with ways to argue this point. What I will say is that some of the usual pro-gun arguments got pretty thoroughly debunked here. There were several "good guys with a gun" in that night club, and none of them were able to take down the gunman before he killed 50 people and wounded 53 others. Arming the entire population will not increase their safety.

Mostly, we need to start teaching our boys and our men a different path. One of kindness, of compassion, one that doesn't equate being a man with suppressing all emotions except anger. I am particularly blessed to be surrounded by men who do know better, but the more I look at the larger world, the more I realise that I live in a sheltered bubble of good people. I am safe only because my friends were raised to not use violence as a solution to their problems. My personal safety when I go outside my home is dependent entirely on the kindness of strangers, so what happens when those strangers haven't been taught to be kind? When they've been taught it's okay to hate someone because of how they look, or who they love, or what they worship? That the natural expression of hatred is to kill?

I don't have a neat solution to propose. If I did, I'm sure someone cleverer than I would have come up with it already, and I wouldn't be making this post in the aftermath of a massacre. I do know that I'm trying to lead by example, but since I'm a woman, my voice counts for less in the circles where we need to make the most difference. I am happy and proud that my male friends also lead by example, and I can only hope that each pebble they throw in the pond has a large ripple effect.


*Note: I'm probably not going to engage anyone in debate in the comments. Like I said, I'm bad at it, and it's not something I find enjoyable. That being said, discussion amongst yourselves is welcomed and encouraged. For the new people to my LJ: keep it civilised, keep it polite. No ad hominem attacks, no insinuating that people are stupid for not sharing your worldview, keep the profanity to generalisations and not directed at people. Please follow Wheaton's Law of the Internet: don't be a dick.

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