Answers to my poll

[mousme]

Well, since there were a whopping TWO questions asked by people on my Ask Me Anything poll, I guess I'd better give in to popular demand and answer them.

Why do you want to wait until marriage to have sex?

Well, to be frank, I have changed my position on that somewhat, as I've realised that it's not really marriage I'm waiting for.

Sex is not a big priority for me. Frankly, I don't get off on getting off, if you follow and please forgive me the play on words. So in order for me to become physically intimate with someone, I want to be as sure as I possibly can be that not only do I love and respect them, but that they in turn love and respect me. See, the two often don't go hand in hand, and they are each necessary but not sufficient conditions in and of themselves.

For the moment, to agree to have sex with someone feels like I'm making a huge concession, not to say sacrifice, to someone else's desires (not to say whims). I don't really want to have sex with anyone, at least not right now. So in order for me to even contemplate it, there would have to be some pretty serious feelings involved, mixed in with a whole lot of understanding and respect and all that shyte. ;)

Hope that answers your question. :)

What are three things you love about yourself?

Gah. Umm... *racks brain*

I love that I'm uncompromisingly loyal to my family. I may bitch about them on a regular basis, but when push comes to shove, you'd better not hurt them in any way or I'll find a way of handing your ass to you on a platter.

I love that I'm still able to lose myself completely in a book the way I did when I was a child, so much so that when a story is particularly captivating I'll half-exist in the story-world until the book is finished.

Umm... *plaintive whine* Isn't two good enough?

Ooh! I love my hair. Yes, indeed, I think I have damned nice hair, and a damned nice haircut. There. *triumphant grin which would make Errol Flynn proud*

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ingenuemuse loves me! She posted questions! *g*

If you could be any superhero for one day, who would it be?

Err, not Aquaman. ;)

Hmm... I think it would have to be Superman. I mean, he's the archetype that spawned the other archetypes, isn't he? Superman is just, well, cool is not quite the word I'm looking for, but he da man. :) And I'm not really a big fan of the women superheroes, unfortunately. They're too top-heavy for my taste. At least, I'm surprised they don't bounce out of their spandex uniforms during those stunts.

Are you on any medications for anxiety/depression etc.?

Why yes, yes I am. As mentioned in a bunch of other entries but not recently, I am now a Pill-Popping!Phnee. I've been prescribed 30mg of Paxil (paroxetine) for anxiety and apparently as a mood-management thing for bipolar disorder, but I confess I'm a little surprised at that because it's a Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitor (an antidepressant), which tends to make me hypo-manic when I'm on an "up" day.

I've also recently aquired some pretty new pills: humungois orange supplements, iron pills for anemia diagnosed nearly three weeks ago, and Imovane for insomnia.

Comments

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[ingenuemuse.livejournal.com]

I guess you didn't get my question, but that probably because I messed it all up.

First I asked you if you could be any super hero for a day which one you'd chose....

After I hit submit I decided it'd be a lame question, so I went back and re-questioned if you were on any medications for things like depression or anxiety, etc...

I reckon re-posting my question ruined the whole damn thing.

=|

[joane.livejournal.com]

"So in order for me to even contemplate it, there would have to be some pretty serious feelings involved, mixed in with a whole lot of understanding and respect and all that shyte."

Good call, at least in my experience. Sex with the right person, I've discovered, someone you trust and who trusts you, can be one of the most exquisite experiences in the world. Sexual intimacy with someone who's not in the same headspace leads to many, many "let us never speak of this again" moments. Don't give up on your own pleasure, though - there are many aspects to sexuality beyond the standard heterosexist Tab A in Slot B formula we're fed from childhood.

[mina-laury.livejournal.com]

I don't do Ask Me Anythings - it's not that I found you in particular too dull to be elucidated.

As for the sex thing, bravo to you for making your own choices. *nods*