Well, this has been a good day thus far

[mousme]

Having slept for fourteen hours (so much for "just a quick nap before supper"), I awoke at eight, had breakfast and zipped off to Côte–des–Neiges to get my hair cut. It was in dire need of maintenance, and I must say my hairdresser is fabulous. She got a little carried away with putting my hair up at the end, but the cut is extremely nice, unlike the crappy one I got last time with someone else, which left one side of my hair about eight centimeters longer than the other.

Did some shopping for my mother while I had the car. Just normal stuff like oranges and grapefruit, milk, perrier etc. Nothing spectacular.

Had fun discussion with TX from the BUS board about his girlfriend and life in general, including the merits of cider and Guinness. He thinks I should tell Poms about the cutting, but I think I may hold off a while longer on that front. It's a big announcement and a lot for one person to swallow, especially for a nervous, skittish guy like Poms. He tends to take things very personally, and I'd hate to have him suddenly feel responsible for keeping me "safe" or something. I'm only just coming to grips with it myself.

Wondering whether I should bring up another subject at dinner tonight. As far as I can tell, he's been extremely circumspect about actually mentioning to anyone else that we're seeing each other. I'm not sure whether he thinks I don't want anyone else to know and is being considerate about my feelings, or whether he doesn't want people to know. In the latter case, I'd really like to know why. How I'm going to broach this topic without being brutally blunt the way I usually am is kind of beyond me at this point.

*sigh* I hate being so socially inept. I'm really bad at conversations that don't involve being flippant on some level. Dammit. :P

Had lunch with Firewillow, which was v. pleasant. Cackled about Bunny and the upcoming Deadlands game, for which I get more inspired every day.

Bought an Hermès scarf for my mother for Mother's Day, and gave it to her straightaway when I came home, 'cause I was so insufferably pleased with myself. She loved it, which absolutely made my day. It's purple and violet and has a feather pattern on it, which I knew she'd like because they look rather like our bird's feathers.

Also stopped at the bank where I applied for a credit card and set up a Guaranteed Investment Certificate for a rainy day. Been meaning to do that for a while now.

So all in all got a lot done today.

Comments

Poms...

[meallanmouse.livejournal.com]

Highly suspect he may be keeping quiet out of impression that you want to keep it quiet. I could be wrong, but I think that might be it, combined with natural overwhelming shyness.

If he didn't want anyone to know in that sense, he wouldn't have told his parents after all.

Methinks a simple straightforward query on this one would work fine. Daniel may be shy, but he's not unnacustomed to straightforwardness. And your forthrightness *grins Forthright's way* is a part of your personality I very much like and appreciate. From what I know of Poms and his reactions to my usual straighforwardness, I think it's something he appreciates in you as well...

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Re: Poms...

[mousme.livejournal.com]

Suspect you may be right, but at the same time I'm not sure he appreciates my forthrightness as much as you do.

I can be extremly blunt and hurtful without meaning to be. I am apparently incapable of tact when it comes to sensitive topics. :P

Re: Poms...

[meallanmouse.livejournal.com]

Is something I cherish in people. Suspect Daniel might too, if only because he's someone who dearly needs to know where he stands - uncertainty is a killer for him, methinks.

Best way to find out? Ask him. Outright. ;) *Blunt!Firewillow strikes again!*

Re: Poms...

[fearsclave.livejournal.com]

I'm with short red and violent here... hit him with the lot :).

Re: Poms...

[meallanmouse.livejournal.com]

HEY! I am NOT short! I'm just the right size! So there!

*reads rest of description*

*blushes* Aw shucks. ;)

Re: Poms...

[fearsclave.livejournal.com]

*pats Firewillow gently on top of head*

*ducks, runs, hides*

Re: Poms...

[meallanmouse.livejournal.com]

*borrows fireaxe Fearsclave left lying on ground and mutters something about knees and the cutting off thereof*

Did EVERYBODY get a haircut today?

[fearsclave.livejournal.com]

You, the Spousal Unit, the FLB...

Forthrightness

[forthright.livejournal.com]

While I recognize that Poms is much, much more shy than Curtana or I, it has always been the case with me that what seemed like a 'really big announcement' turned out to be less earthshattering once it was made. Of course, only you are in a position to bring it up at the right time and in the right way.

As for his not mentioning to other people that you're going out, it may either be out of embarassment (not at you, but at the daunting subject of saying 'I have a girlfriend'), out of 'respect' (not to be seen as bragging), or even out of fear that if he announces it and then the relationship doesn't work out, he'll look foolish. I don't know him that well, and am certainly not in a position to say which is the case (if any), but I thought I'd mention them as possibilities to make you aware of them. I have certainly thought of (if not practiced) all three of these reasons in the past.