*sigh*

[mousme]

So.

Cute girl has a crush on me. I have a crush on cute girl. No brainer, right?

Cute girl is poly and married.

I am single and very much not poly. Just not wired that way.

*kicks petulantly at a pebble*

And before anyone suggests that I should try it anyway: no. It's not fair to her or me to put us both through the emotional wringer like that. I can't do casual, I can't do "secondary," and I can't imagine myself in that sort of relationship.

I'm just a little disappointed with life right now.

Comments

[pasley.livejournal.com]

(I have this theory that poly is a big lie that people play on each other and themselves. I suspect it doesn't actually exist; if it did, the people involved would all always be happy, right? I suspect it's really one person who, for mostly selfish reasons, decides they are, and then their partner goes along with it to please them and save the relationship.)

ANYWAY ... It really sucks, and I'm sorry. You are so wise to know you're not wired that way, and so right to not go further with it. It's kind to her, and kind to yourself.

But yeah. Still sucks.
xoxox

[kiwano.livejournal.com]

I have this theory that poly is a big lie that people play on each other and themselves. I suspect it doesn't actually exist; if it did, the people involved would all always be happy, right? I suspect it's really one person who, for mostly selfish reasons, decides they are, and then their partner goes along with it to please them and save the relationship.

Unless they met in some setting where being poly was already assumed, e.g. at a sex party.. :P