*sigh*

[mousme]

So.

Cute girl has a crush on me. I have a crush on cute girl. No brainer, right?

Cute girl is poly and married.

I am single and very much not poly. Just not wired that way.

*kicks petulantly at a pebble*

And before anyone suggests that I should try it anyway: no. It's not fair to her or me to put us both through the emotional wringer like that. I can't do casual, I can't do "secondary," and I can't imagine myself in that sort of relationship.

I'm just a little disappointed with life right now.

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It's funny. I thought I was irretrievably poly, until my last relationship, when I discovered I could be entirely happy being mono with the right person...

For at least 5 months, which is when the relationship ended. It didn't end due to anything to do with poly or not, and I don't know how long the state I found myself in would have lasted, but I was surprised at how little it mattered to me, not being able to sleep with friends that I've previously built that kind of friendship with. I always thought I was poly as core-deep as I was bi. It was part of my sexuality, and nothing could change that. It's strange, finding out things about yourself that you always believed in aren't true.

Not that any of this has anything to do with your situation. It's just late, and I wanted to share. I agree with the decision to not put either of you through that, if you're not wired that way. Alas, maturity has very little to do with immediate satisfaction.