Miscommunication

[mousme]

So last week I said to BorderCrossing: "owldaughter's concert is next Saturday. Want to come?"

What she heard was: "I'm going to owldaughter's concert next Saturday. Want to get together before I go?"

Two different things, with the result that she made alternate plans for tonight. She's coming back afterward, though, so it could be worse. I think I have to be more explicit about these things: she appears easily distracted. Last week she was a surprised when I mentioned the Shindig, and didn't remember my telling her about it in October. I think constant reinforcement and reminders are key.

My girlfriend is even more absent-minded than I am, and that's saying something. At least she has a good excuse. :D

Comments

[joane.livejournal.com]

Hahaha - welcome to my world. If it's any consolation, the reminders become habit very quickly. :D

[fearsclave.livejournal.com]

Significant others need reminding. Tactful, gentle, non-naggy reminding is a very useful relationship skill :).

[tcaptain.livejournal.com]

I empathize with your gf as I am supremely absent-minded. It's a miracle I'm not a professor or mad scientist...

J can commiserate.