Concerts, Clothing and The Rules
Jun. 7th, 2006 11:50 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
mousmeWent to see the Ancient and Nameless One (aka ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
sandman7) in concert yesterday, which was much fun. He and a tiny little girl in a red top were by far the best. Everyone else watched a little too much "American Idol" before performing. Also, there were any number of technical difficulties with the microphone, which didn't seem to want to adjust for anyone. It was a great deal of fun, though, and I look forward to going back next year to hear him sing again.
Just before that I bopped over to t!'s old place wheresilly_imp was waiting. She was kind enough to provide me with two pairs of shoes and a few very nice tops as well as a large stack of towels (I've never had enough towels, so hopefully this will remedy the situation). I'm especially pleased with a little red top that she gave me, and which I hope to be able to wear soon, maybe this weekend. I have to run a couple of things through the wash, though, because they've been sitting around unworn for a little while.
The CAM received a copy of The Rules by messenger from one of our clients today. Since she wasn't here I decided to snoop through the book. Actually, I probably would have snooped even if she had been here. What a load of tripe. Do people actually believe this stuff? It really made me rather sick to my stomach.
Okay, some of it wasn't bad. The injunction to be happy with yourself and not act completely desperate and throw yourself at people is a good one. OTOH, the idea that a woman needs to act like a delicate butterfly, aloof and mysterious and vaguely unattainable, in order to attract a man, is pretty damned repugnant. "Don't be yourself at first," the women who wrote the book caution. "When did wearing your heart on your sleeve ever work for you?" Also, they warn to let the man be the "aggressor," as it's in his nature. Women should be passive and acted upon, or at least give that impression.
Barf.
I don't know what I find worse: the fact that these women think this way, or the possibility that it's precisely this sort of attitude that does work.
I would like to know what society is smoking lately.
sandman7) in concert yesterday, which was much fun. He and a tiny little girl in a red top were by far the best. Everyone else watched a little too much "American Idol" before performing. Also, there were any number of technical difficulties with the microphone, which didn't seem to want to adjust for anyone. It was a great deal of fun, though, and I look forward to going back next year to hear him sing again. Just before that I bopped over to t!'s old place where
silly_imp was waiting. She was kind enough to provide me with two pairs of shoes and a few very nice tops as well as a large stack of towels (I've never had enough towels, so hopefully this will remedy the situation). I'm especially pleased with a little red top that she gave me, and which I hope to be able to wear soon, maybe this weekend. I have to run a couple of things through the wash, though, because they've been sitting around unworn for a little while. The CAM received a copy of The Rules by messenger from one of our clients today. Since she wasn't here I decided to snoop through the book. Actually, I probably would have snooped even if she had been here. What a load of tripe. Do people actually believe this stuff? It really made me rather sick to my stomach.
Okay, some of it wasn't bad. The injunction to be happy with yourself and not act completely desperate and throw yourself at people is a good one. OTOH, the idea that a woman needs to act like a delicate butterfly, aloof and mysterious and vaguely unattainable, in order to attract a man, is pretty damned repugnant. "Don't be yourself at first," the women who wrote the book caution. "When did wearing your heart on your sleeve ever work for you?" Also, they warn to let the man be the "aggressor," as it's in his nature. Women should be passive and acted upon, or at least give that impression.
Barf.
I don't know what I find worse: the fact that these women think this way, or the possibility that it's precisely this sort of attitude that does work.
I would like to know what society is smoking lately.
Bah
Date: 2006-06-08 09:01 am (UTC)Ever since then, I've tried to pursue relationships with people who know how, and are willing to, communicate their feelings.