A slight change in scheduling (and tone)

[mousme]

I had dinner with my mother again tonight, because she's leaving for the United States on Friday morning instead of next week.

My uncle is dying. We've known this for quite a while, but now it seems like the end is very near. His bodily functions have almost all failed, and he's refusing his medication as well as any food or drink. Basically, he's letting go.

I've already said before that I count this a blessing. He's been so sick for so long, it can't be anything but a relief and a release for him.

I just wish I could be there with my mother when she goes to Connecticut. My uncle is her last living family member in North America, and she'll be there with no one but my uncle's horrid second-wife and his insipid daughters.

No, I don't much like that side of the family. They're the selfish bitches who stuck my uncle in a retirement home because they couldn't be arsed to take care of him, even when home-care was still a viable option (I'm not counting when his condition worsened). His wife got him to sign over all his money, bought herself another house and a condo in Florida, and goes on several trips a year. She visits him maybe twice a year, for a day or two. His daughters live ten minutes away from him by car, but they don't visit him, ever.

So my mother will be stuck with these unsympathetic people, while her last link to her family fades into oblivion. She took the death of her mother six years ago very hard, and I'm pretty sure her brother's death will be equally, if not more difficult. I just don't know what to do to keep her from falling apart.

*sigh*

I'm kind of at a loss...

Comments

[djs-specs.livejournal.com]

Is there any way you can go with her? I know that most employers are loathe to give compassionate leave barely a month into someone's employment, but maybe if you explain the situation to your wanker of a supervisor he might discover that heretofore missing sympathetic bone in his body. Maybe if you sign something to say that you will be coming back they'll be more inclined to let you go for a few days.

*hugs*

[mousme.livejournal.com]

I wish I could, but there's really no way I can afford to go. I'm still on probation and being paid by my agency, which means I wouldn't get paid for the days I took off, and I can barely live on what I'm making now.

Also, my mother will be staying with her niece, who can't really put up any more people than those who'll already be there. So it'd be a big hassle to find me somewhere to stay, not to mention expensive. :(

I've gone through a few scenarios to see if it's feasible, but it just ain't gonna happen...

[mickat24.livejournal.com]

Be there for her as much as you can. Show her that she does have a family who loves her - you. That's all you can do. And help her remember the good things.

Unrelated - that picture you're icon's made from - what is it?

[djs-specs.livejournal.com]

That sucks big time. Ruling out you going with her, all you can do is just do what you're doing now - be there for her when it happens.

Loss for words

[shenlo.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[mousme.livejournal.com]

Thanks. :)

I don't know what the picture's from. My friend curtana sent it to me by email and suggested it would make a good "wibble" icon. So I cropped it and added some text.;)

I suspect it's from Getty images, or a similar website.

[curtana.livejournal.com]

Erm... I got that image probably around the time I got my LJ (so, 2.5 years ago or so), and I have no idea where I got it anymore. Sorry not to be more help :)

[mickat24.livejournal.com]

Thanks. Feeling better?

[vureoelt.livejournal.com]

Zat ees, how you say, le suckage, non? :(

But yeah, that's not the definition of family in my book.

*hugs*