God, but I'm tired

[mousme]

Had lunch with the Paternal Unit again, and listened to more badgering about my finances for an hour and a bit. It's become a daily thing now, ever since he discovered that I'd miscalculated my finances for last month. I have the duty and honour now to listen to him tell me how much I suck every day of the week, several times a day usually.

He also seems to expect me, within a span of less than 24 horus each time, to come up with a solution to all my problems that will satisfy him. When I don't he tells me to "stop acting like a baby" and grow up. Easier said than done when he talks to me like a five-year-old.

I'm not sure what to do. Part of me wants to tell him to shove it, that I don't want his help or his money anymore, and to go get a loan somewhere to tide me over until I can get a job. Then I could happily cut off ties with both my parents, since dealing with them every day makes me want to perform hara kiri with a wooden spoon. Problem is, I have no idea how that's supposed to work. Besides, no bank in their right mind would ever give me a loan since I have no job.

Christ, what a mess.

Comments

[curtana.livejournal.com]

Maybe this is too simple, but you could try refusing to talk about it. Keep him off the topic of your finances by starting your conversation at lunch on another subject (preferably one he is interested in - and from what you say, your father is knowledgable on many diverse subjects, so that shouldn't be too hard). If he starts to talk about money, you can try to steer the conversation back to something more pleasant. If he doesn't get the hint, just plainly say that you aren't interested in talking about it with him. If he pesters, tell him that you've gotten tired of him treating you like a child, that you can take care of the situation, that you appreciate he's concerned but he's not helping the situation any by belittling you, or something along those lines. As per my usual advice, no need to get upset or defensive - stand up for yourself with quiet dignity :)