I think she might be overtraining, especially since she seems to injure herself a lot. However, her body, her choice. I certainly wouldn't presume to tell her what to do with herself. She has a trainer and other professionals to help her out, so I figure she's a big enough girl to do what she thinks is best.
I know what you mean about understanding why she's acutely aware of calories/other random details about food. I also understand the desire to share her knowledge. However, I draw the line there. Being told "Don't eat that!" is stepping over the line.
See, I am an adult, and able to make decisions on my own about what I put in my mouth. Just as I wouldn't presume to tell her what to eat (she eats a tin of sardines every day, for crying out loud!), I expect her to extend the same courtesy to me.
The other comments make me foam at the mouth. My mother stopped making them when I started university and made it clear to her that saying things like that was no longer acceptable.
What I find insulting is that there seems to be an underlying assumption that if you're fat, it's because you don't know any better, or are stupid/lazy/slovenly/etc. People who are either thin, or who have lost a great deal of weight, often feel that they need to go on a crusade to get other people to be thin as well.
I once had a young girl (probably around sixteen) come up to me on the street out of the blue and tell me: "You shouldn't eat so much! You're way too fat!" As though 1) she knew everything about my diet and exercise habits, and 2) it was her place to "educate" me about these things.
That she was a good eight years my junior at the time and had no business whatsoever making that kind of comment clearly never occurred to her. I was so nonplussed that I simply gaped at her while she went back to her group of giggling cohorts. I don't know if it was a dare, or if she really thought she was doing me a favour, but either way, I was flabbergasted.
Anyway, I think I may have ranted enough on the topic for now.
![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
branchandroot
no subject
Date: 2007-04-26 04:09 pm (UTC)I know what you mean about understanding why she's acutely aware of calories/other random details about food. I also understand the desire to share her knowledge. However, I draw the line there. Being told "Don't eat that!" is stepping over the line.
See, I am an adult, and able to make decisions on my own about what I put in my mouth. Just as I wouldn't presume to tell her what to eat (she eats a tin of sardines every day, for crying out loud!), I expect her to extend the same courtesy to me.
The other comments make me foam at the mouth. My mother stopped making them when I started university and made it clear to her that saying things like that was no longer acceptable.
What I find insulting is that there seems to be an underlying assumption that if you're fat, it's because you don't know any better, or are stupid/lazy/slovenly/etc. People who are either thin, or who have lost a great deal of weight, often feel that they need to go on a crusade to get other people to be thin as well.
I once had a young girl (probably around sixteen) come up to me on the street out of the blue and tell me: "You shouldn't eat so much! You're way too fat!" As though 1) she knew everything about my diet and exercise habits, and 2) it was her place to "educate" me about these things.
That she was a good eight years my junior at the time and had no business whatsoever making that kind of comment clearly never occurred to her. I was so nonplussed that I simply gaped at her while she went back to her group of giggling cohorts. I don't know if it was a dare, or if she really thought she was doing me a favour, but either way, I was flabbergasted.
Anyway, I think I may have ranted enough on the topic for now.