don't you ever have that feeling and question going on in your head : "where do I really come from ?", "Why was I born ? I never asked for it ?" . Do you even want to know ? Have you got the need to seek for your biological mother ?
I know someone 70ish seeking for her mother , it could be by grand-mother who abandonned her back in 1937. It just appeared in my mother's life last week, a woman looking for the descendants of our genealogy tree. An adopted person seems to seek their origins at some point or the other. This very person though waited tohave her adoptive mother to die to start doing the research. There is grief somewhere when you get adopted, I have a couple of friends and they resent their adoptive parents. Is it the case with you ?
Adoption for me would be for children you lost their parents in dramatic cases like car accidents or so. I don't see adoption as an alternative for abortion at all. Someone who aborts because they can't be bothered with condoms should be shot ! Someone who has no idea that even once , sperm and egg can be fertilized, should be MORE educated ! In France we can't adopt French children bceause they are not that many, children "abandonned" are rare, it's more a case of irresponsible mothers, teen age mothers and so. Adopted children usually are being put in foster homes or orphanages where the mother can still keep contact (a card is enough, which i find it very cruel). Law in France as regards adoption should change because it is creating hurt, angry children for the rest of their lives. The adopted children i know are now adults and they were clearly abandonned, they retain a grief inside them, an anxiety for the future and tend to be very fusionnal with people. I wished in anideal world that adoption did not even exist for when you have a child developping in you, you create a bond that's for life and you keep that child because he/she is part of your flesh.
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Date: 2007-01-30 06:08 am (UTC)I know someone 70ish seeking for her mother , it could be by grand-mother who abandonned her back in 1937. It just appeared in my mother's life last week, a woman looking for the descendants of our genealogy tree. An adopted person seems to seek their origins at some point or the other. This very person though waited tohave her adoptive mother to die to start doing the research. There is grief somewhere when you get adopted, I have a couple of friends and they resent their adoptive parents. Is it the case with you ?
Adoption for me would be for children you lost their parents in dramatic cases like car accidents or so. I don't see adoption as an alternative for abortion at all. Someone who aborts because they can't be bothered with condoms should be shot ! Someone who has no idea that even once , sperm and egg can be fertilized, should be MORE educated ! In France we can't adopt French children bceause they are not that many, children "abandonned" are rare, it's more a case of irresponsible mothers, teen age mothers and so. Adopted children usually are being put in foster homes or orphanages where the mother can still keep contact (a card is enough, which i find it very cruel). Law in France as regards adoption should change because it is creating hurt, angry children for the rest of their lives. The adopted children i know are now adults and they were clearly abandonned, they retain a grief inside them, an anxiety for the future and tend to be very fusionnal with people. I wished in anideal world that adoption did not even exist for when you have a child developping in you, you create a bond that's for life and you keep that child because he/she is part of your flesh.