Here's my story: My husband and I love each other very much. We are happy, stable, comfortable, and employed, but *we* *don't* *want* *children*. We discussed it extensively before we got married, and made a (some would undoubtedly say selfish) decision, contrary to biological imperitive, not to have children. We use a method of birth control that is statistically 99% effective. We are actively investigating a permanent (pardon the pun) 'fix'; but even that option is not 100% sure contraception, statistically.
I *very* much resent anyone telling me that if we should happen to be the unfortunate victims of a statistical anomaly, then somehow it was "meant to be" and our carefully considered decision is null and void.
I know that this means I may one day have to make the choice to abort. I hate the very idea, but in a way I've already made it. I've chosen not to have children, and I am not willing to go through with 9 months of pregnancy in order to give a baby up for adoption, because I'm not willing to put myself through the emotional trauma. My psyche isn't strong enough. I'm sorry if that makes me a bad person, but it's the right choice for me and my family.
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Date: 2007-01-29 09:56 pm (UTC)I *very* much resent anyone telling me that if we should happen to be the unfortunate victims of a statistical anomaly, then somehow it was "meant to be" and our carefully considered decision is null and void.
I know that this means I may one day have to make the choice to abort. I hate the very idea, but in a way I've already made it. I've chosen not to have children, and I am not willing to go through with 9 months of pregnancy in order to give a baby up for adoption, because I'm not willing to put myself through the emotional trauma. My psyche isn't strong enough. I'm sorry if that makes me a bad person, but it's the right choice for me and my family.