I'm very, very much pro-choice but I'd rather it was a choice that didn't have to be made.
One of my biggest problems with my first donor was that he wanted me to put in writing that I'd have an amnio and abort if it found *any* defects. Needless to say I refused.
Would I ever have an abortion? Probably not. Unless there was absolute proof that the child would have no chance of if my own health was in severe danger.
Since we are in the process of becoming foster parents/adopting I can tell you that it is a MUCH more rigorous process than you might think and certainly has come a long way over the years, I'd say it's much harder now than it was in the past.
We don't get any guarantees in life-- I think that's what makes it worth living. You never know what you're going to get or how things will turn out. All you can do is your best and hope that it's enough. There's a quote from Hamlet that pretty much sums how I feel: "There’s a divinity that shapes our ends,/Rough-hew them how we will." Maybe not a God per se but at the very least a Grace.
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Date: 2007-01-29 06:04 pm (UTC)One of my biggest problems with my first donor was that he wanted me to put in writing that I'd have an amnio and abort if it found *any* defects. Needless to say I refused.
Would I ever have an abortion? Probably not. Unless there was absolute proof that the child would have no chance of if my own health was in severe danger.
Since we are in the process of becoming foster parents/adopting I can tell you that it is a MUCH more rigorous process than you might think and certainly has come a long way over the years, I'd say it's much harder now than it was in the past.
We don't get any guarantees in life-- I think that's what makes it worth living. You never know what you're going to get or how things will turn out. All you can do is your best and hope that it's enough. There's a quote from Hamlet that pretty much sums how I feel: "There’s a divinity that shapes our ends,/Rough-hew them how we will." Maybe not a God per se but at the very least a Grace.