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In brighter news...
Apr. 25th, 2025 04:10 amThe quail hadn't laid any eggs yesterday when I checked on them, but clearly they got busy afterward because I got five eggs when I checked this evening before going to work! This is exciting news because it means the third lady quail is probably getting in on the action as well now. I think tomorrow night it will be omelette time. Om nom nom.
The night shifts are going by kind of slowly, and I have a headache tonight that the paranoid part of me is trying to convince me is the beginning of Covid. I forgot to call my parents yesterday evening and I feel kind of shitty about that. It was 10pm when I remembered, and I didn't want to risk waking them if they were asleep. They are notorious for going to bed much later than me normally, but this week it wouldn't surprise me if they were trying to get to sleep much earlier than usual. I hope they're doing okay. I'll probably call them when I get out of work tomorrow morning, maybe around 8:30 or so.
I won't be getting much sleep tomorrow anyway. KK has asked me to drive her to the hospital because she has an endoscopy at 9:00 that she has to be sedated for, so she is not allowed to drive herself back from the appointment. So that means I won't be getting to sleep until at 11:00 at the earliest and more likely noon. Normally that would be fine, and I'd just sleep until 8:00pm, but I also committed to a phone call at 4:00pm that I don't want to miss or reschedule.
I think I mentioned that I'd started looking for my birth parents last year, right? Anyway, my birth mother wasn't super keen on staying in touch after a few emails, which I understand, even if I'm a little disappointed that I won't get to know her any better. At least I got some answers to the questions I had, and that's good enough for me. I actually found a 2nd cousin through ancestry.ca, Cousin Karen, and she is VERY invested in helping me find all of my birth relatives. She and I are Facebook friends now and chat pretty regularly. She seems super nice. So, once I learned the identity of my birth father and, more importantly, his parents, she was finally able to pinpoint how we were related (we share a grandmother on my paternal side). The social worker on my file wasn't able to locate my birth father, but Cousin Karen is apparently far more resourceful. She recruited Cousin Suzie and they found him on Facebook under an alias (the way many people don't use their full name on Facebook, it's nothing nefarious). So I relayed this information to my social worker, she got in touch with him, and he is open to communicating with me.
I will confess to creeping on his Facebook beforehand, to get a sense of who he is these days. My birth mother had explained to me that he was very emotionally abusive with her, and basically abandoned her to be homeless during her pregnancy. He adamantly didn't want children, and she says he gave her an ultimatum: him or the baby. Since she didn't have a job or a place to live, I was a medically very fragile baby, and she wasn't ready to divorce him (they were married), so she gave me up for adoption. So, you know, he sounds like he was a world-class asshole.
His online presence has led me to believe he may have changed for the better over the years. Very shortly after he and my birth mother split up he met another woman (name unknown to me) and they remained together until her death last year, by the looks of it. He also became a registered social worker after, I assume, giving up on his dreams of going to acting school. He doesn't post much that's very personal, but then again, neither do I on social media, but his politics appear to be very left-leaning.
The social worker gave me his cell phone number, and he and I texted briefly today and agreed to talk tomorrow afternoon. Well, technically this afternoon now, since it's well past midnight. I'm very interested to hear his version of events, to see what kind of accountability he's willing to take, what work he's done on himself, and to learn if he's ever attempted to make amends, or what. He may have done a lot or nothing at all, but I'm interested to know.
Anyway, yeah, it has been a week, and we're not even done yet!
I'm going to go heat my "lunch" and wait for this shift to finally end in a few hours. Catch you on the flip side, friends!
The night shifts are going by kind of slowly, and I have a headache tonight that the paranoid part of me is trying to convince me is the beginning of Covid. I forgot to call my parents yesterday evening and I feel kind of shitty about that. It was 10pm when I remembered, and I didn't want to risk waking them if they were asleep. They are notorious for going to bed much later than me normally, but this week it wouldn't surprise me if they were trying to get to sleep much earlier than usual. I hope they're doing okay. I'll probably call them when I get out of work tomorrow morning, maybe around 8:30 or so.
I won't be getting much sleep tomorrow anyway. KK has asked me to drive her to the hospital because she has an endoscopy at 9:00 that she has to be sedated for, so she is not allowed to drive herself back from the appointment. So that means I won't be getting to sleep until at 11:00 at the earliest and more likely noon. Normally that would be fine, and I'd just sleep until 8:00pm, but I also committed to a phone call at 4:00pm that I don't want to miss or reschedule.
I think I mentioned that I'd started looking for my birth parents last year, right? Anyway, my birth mother wasn't super keen on staying in touch after a few emails, which I understand, even if I'm a little disappointed that I won't get to know her any better. At least I got some answers to the questions I had, and that's good enough for me. I actually found a 2nd cousin through ancestry.ca, Cousin Karen, and she is VERY invested in helping me find all of my birth relatives. She and I are Facebook friends now and chat pretty regularly. She seems super nice. So, once I learned the identity of my birth father and, more importantly, his parents, she was finally able to pinpoint how we were related (we share a grandmother on my paternal side). The social worker on my file wasn't able to locate my birth father, but Cousin Karen is apparently far more resourceful. She recruited Cousin Suzie and they found him on Facebook under an alias (the way many people don't use their full name on Facebook, it's nothing nefarious). So I relayed this information to my social worker, she got in touch with him, and he is open to communicating with me.
I will confess to creeping on his Facebook beforehand, to get a sense of who he is these days. My birth mother had explained to me that he was very emotionally abusive with her, and basically abandoned her to be homeless during her pregnancy. He adamantly didn't want children, and she says he gave her an ultimatum: him or the baby. Since she didn't have a job or a place to live, I was a medically very fragile baby, and she wasn't ready to divorce him (they were married), so she gave me up for adoption. So, you know, he sounds like he was a world-class asshole.
His online presence has led me to believe he may have changed for the better over the years. Very shortly after he and my birth mother split up he met another woman (name unknown to me) and they remained together until her death last year, by the looks of it. He also became a registered social worker after, I assume, giving up on his dreams of going to acting school. He doesn't post much that's very personal, but then again, neither do I on social media, but his politics appear to be very left-leaning.
The social worker gave me his cell phone number, and he and I texted briefly today and agreed to talk tomorrow afternoon. Well, technically this afternoon now, since it's well past midnight. I'm very interested to hear his version of events, to see what kind of accountability he's willing to take, what work he's done on himself, and to learn if he's ever attempted to make amends, or what. He may have done a lot or nothing at all, but I'm interested to know.
Anyway, yeah, it has been a week, and we're not even done yet!
I'm going to go heat my "lunch" and wait for this shift to finally end in a few hours. Catch you on the flip side, friends!
