I don't feel that 'OMG can't breathe if you're not near me' thing (in fact what I feel is often more of a 'OMG I can't breathe if you ARE near me I love you now please go away'), and I think a lot of the Twue Wuv thing is an unconscious working up of something to make it seem like it fills a bigger hole in someone's life than it actually does. I too go days and days, often months, without contacting close friends, but when we do meet again we can just pick up where we left off.
It takes a *lot* for me to be close friends with someone. I'm fairly certain most of my friends think they're much closer to me than they actually are. So when I do meet someone with whom I don't have to go through the song and dance thing (the 'working hard to connect' thing you mention), when there's some sort of click, it's comfortable, and we slip right away into the 'feels like I known you forever' thing. But that's very, very rare for me. I can think of maybe three people it's happened with, and one of them ended up being my husband.
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Date: 2008-12-06 05:08 pm (UTC)It takes a *lot* for me to be close friends with someone. I'm fairly certain most of my friends think they're much closer to me than they actually are. So when I do meet someone with whom I don't have to go through the song and dance thing (the 'working hard to connect' thing you mention), when there's some sort of click, it's comfortable, and we slip right away into the 'feels like I known you forever' thing. But that's very, very rare for me. I can think of maybe three people it's happened with, and one of them ended up being my husband.
I think more of us are like you than you suspect.