mousme: A view of a woman's legs from behind, wearing knee-high rainbow socks. The rest of the picture is black and white. (Despondent (Ratatouille))
mousme ([personal profile] mousme) wrote2011-08-06 01:15 am

*sigh*

So.

Cute girl has a crush on me. I have a crush on cute girl. No brainer, right?

Cute girl is poly and married.

I am single and very much not poly. Just not wired that way.

*kicks petulantly at a pebble*

And before anyone suggests that I should try it anyway: no. It's not fair to her or me to put us both through the emotional wringer like that. I can't do casual, I can't do "secondary," and I can't imagine myself in that sort of relationship.

I'm just a little disappointed with life right now.

[identity profile] griffen.livejournal.com 2011-08-06 06:07 pm (UTC)(link)
For me, seeing my partner happy, when someone else is making him happy in ways that I can't, makes me happy. I do have some anxiety about new partners of my partners, but it's more unfamiliarity and discomfort with change than it is jealousy. My husband doesn't have a jealous bone in his body; he fundamentally doesn't "get" jealousy.