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A "theoretical" question ;)
Yeah, so, once again Phnee has been thinking far too much for her own good (I think someone posted the other day that one of their pet peeves is people referring to themselves in the third person, which I kinda like doing as long as I'm being sarcastic... anyway), which has led me to this post.
Since most (if not all) of you are far more experienced than I am relationship-wise, I have a few points on which I'd appreciate your opinion/experience/advice/input/whatever.
Namely (this was inspired mostly by![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
griffen but also by a numer of others) the topic of internet and or/long-distance relationships. Allow me to elaborate (not that you have much say in the matter, and good Lord I've used a lot of parentheses today!):
Up until recently, I had the (admittedly close-minded) view that an internet-based relationship wasn't as good as one based on mutual acquaintance and physical accesssibility.
Now, obviously, not so sure.
So, I was wondering: how do these things work? How does one go from being a random internet acquaintance to having an online relationship? What are the advantages, the disadvantages, the pitfalls, the good, the bad and the ugly?
This actually *is* a theoretical post, in spite of the quotation marks in the subject line (I thought they were funny), but I'd still like to know your opinions on the matter.
Thanks all! :)
Since most (if not all) of you are far more experienced than I am relationship-wise, I have a few points on which I'd appreciate your opinion/experience/advice/input/whatever.
Namely (this was inspired mostly by
griffen but also by a numer of others) the topic of internet and or/long-distance relationships. Allow me to elaborate (not that you have much say in the matter, and good Lord I've used a lot of parentheses today!):Up until recently, I had the (admittedly close-minded) view that an internet-based relationship wasn't as good as one based on mutual acquaintance and physical accesssibility.
Now, obviously, not so sure.
So, I was wondering: how do these things work? How does one go from being a random internet acquaintance to having an online relationship? What are the advantages, the disadvantages, the pitfalls, the good, the bad and the ugly?
This actually *is* a theoretical post, in spite of the quotation marks in the subject line (I thought they were funny), but I'd still like to know your opinions on the matter.
Thanks all! :)
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Joane said pretty much the same thing as I was going to. Online is just a fantasy. You don't know who they really are. Photographs are just photographs. Even if they think they're being open and honest, you aren't getting to REALLY know them. I DO speak from some experience, so this isn't just an idealist vision or anything.
The pros: You can "fall in love" with a fantasy person who speaks in beautiful 8 point font. You can fantasize with assistance. But you know... I'm sure it wouldn't be hard to simply compose some kind of randomized artificial intelligence to do the same thing for you.
The cons: You delude yourself. You can't go out with this person. You can't BE there for or with this person. A whole catalog of cons too numerous to put here.
Oh, I'm just rambling here now. All I can say is online relations are fun to fantasize and play. But anything too serious (and I mean, obviously, long-distance, virtual only relations) is just unhealthy.