I fully understand your point but I would disagree. A child needs to be wanted and desired hence loved fully at the very start of lovemaking. A child cannot be the result of an accident, a rape, an incest, God (if there is one) should not allow life in such bad circumstances.
Back in 1989, I had an abortion because of a pill failure. The father was NOT the one, the man of my life and i was still a student in my early university years. I would have hated this child because he/she was not welcomed in my life. I felt depressed and terrible because i did not speak about it to my family or anyone among my friends because i did not want to justify my act, knowing that i would be judged and condemned.
In 1987, I was raped, do you really think that if a child had been born out of that, i would be pro-choice ? As soon as I would have been told, I would have run the first abortion clinic. In 1993, my fatalistic and unlucky star made me encounter a bad person who sexually assaulted me, this time, i went to the police and all the dna procedures, a child did not fortunately appear nine months later. If it did, I would have made the choice to get rid of this monstruous life inside me.
When I had a dully wanted desired pregnancy, out of wedlock, knowing the father for not that long,but I was deeply in love, it felt right. Everything felt right, almost ten years later, this man is still in my life and despite the current situation, it still feels right because we love one another very much. With this pregnancy in 1999,i would not have done anything to it. Kelvin was born nine months later and he's going to be eight soon. Gabrielle is so gorgeous, it would have been a shame to abort.
Children are the results of an act of love, they need to be strongly desired otherwise their self-esteem is destroyed. "Why I am born?", "Never asked to be born", "Why did you let me be born?", these are recurrent questions an unwanted child will ask all his life. There are times when I ask these questions myself because my Mum was a single mother wanting a child and taking all the responsibilities for my education but never stopping telling me how a SOB, my father has been. There is an amount of guilt that a child carries for the existence of his being, whether he is wanted or not. We don't choose our family but we choose our friends. I respect your point of view and thank you for having read mine.
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I fully understand your point but I would disagree. A child needs to be wanted and desired hence loved fully at the very start of lovemaking. A child cannot be the result of an accident, a rape, an incest, God (if there is one) should not allow life in such bad circumstances.
Back in 1989, I had an abortion because of a pill failure. The father was NOT the one, the man of my life and i was still a student in my early university years. I would have hated this child because he/she was not welcomed in my life. I felt depressed and terrible because i did not speak about it to my family or anyone among my friends because i did not want to justify my act, knowing that i would be judged and condemned.
In 1987, I was raped, do you really think that if a child had been born out of that, i would be pro-choice ? As soon as I would have been told, I would have run the first abortion clinic.
In 1993, my fatalistic and unlucky star made me encounter a bad person who sexually assaulted me, this time, i went to the police and all the dna procedures, a child did not fortunately appear nine months later. If it did, I would have made the choice to get rid of this monstruous life inside me.
When I had a dully wanted desired pregnancy, out of wedlock, knowing the father for not that long,but I was deeply in love, it felt right. Everything felt right, almost ten years later, this man is still in my life and despite the current situation, it still feels right because we love one another very much. With this pregnancy in 1999,i would not have done anything to it. Kelvin was born nine months later and he's going to be eight soon. Gabrielle is so gorgeous, it would have been a shame to abort.
Children are the results of an act of love, they need to be strongly desired otherwise their self-esteem is destroyed. "Why I am born?", "Never asked to be born", "Why did you let me be born?", these are recurrent questions an unwanted child will ask all his life. There are times when I ask these questions myself because my Mum was a single mother wanting a child and taking all the responsibilities for my education but never stopping telling me how a SOB, my father has been.
There is an amount of guilt that a child carries for the existence of his being, whether he is wanted or not. We don't choose our family but we choose our friends. I respect your point of view and thank you for having read mine.