(yes, I'm alive!)

Just a quick point: "I nearly drove my first SO to suicide, and that was when I was trying to be *nice*. What's going to happen the next time I try?"

This is *so* not what happened, although it's what he'd like you to believe. Try this on for size:

"My ex decided to threaten suicide as a form of emotional blackmail, since he knew I was already feeling undeservedly guilty about choosing my own happiness over putting up with his constant bullshit. This proved that he was a dick who didn't really care about me and my well-being."

Not all relationships have to be earth-shattering forever-romances. There are plenty of women out there just looking for someone to go out with, spend time with, relax around. I know - I did that myself for a while. :) Casual dating is a Good Thing, and as long as you communicate what your desires are -

("I'm looking for something casual right now, since I don't have the time/energy/inclination for a full-bore True Love at the moment. Wanna grab coffee and fool around?")

- you'll be fine. :)

I'm out of town this weekend, but around tonight and tomorrow night. Gimme a call if you want.