It is horrible. I mean, I know intellectually that we're not immune to this kind of terrible behaviour, but seeing it first hand is really hard to take. I keep wanting to try to *fix* the situation, too, and have to sit on my hands in order not to. It's past fixing, and my role is one of support only.

How are you doing, by the way? I know you've been getting sick a lot, so I hope you're feeling better! Once you are, we should get together. You and N. haven't met the new kitties yet!