It's funny. I thought I was irretrievably poly, until my last relationship, when I discovered I could be entirely happy being mono with the right person...
For at least 5 months, which is when the relationship ended. It didn't end due to anything to do with poly or not, and I don't know how long the state I found myself in would have lasted, but I was surprised at how little it mattered to me, not being able to sleep with friends that I've previously built that kind of friendship with. I always thought I was poly as core-deep as I was bi. It was part of my sexuality, and nothing could change that. It's strange, finding out things about yourself that you always believed in aren't true.
Not that any of this has anything to do with your situation. It's just late, and I wanted to share. I agree with the decision to not put either of you through that, if you're not wired that way. Alas, maturity has very little to do with immediate satisfaction.
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For at least 5 months, which is when the relationship ended. It didn't end due to anything to do with poly or not, and I don't know how long the state I found myself in would have lasted, but I was surprised at how little it mattered to me, not being able to sleep with friends that I've previously built that kind of friendship with. I always thought I was poly as core-deep as I was bi. It was part of my sexuality, and nothing could change that. It's strange, finding out things about yourself that you always believed in aren't true.
Not that any of this has anything to do with your situation. It's just late, and I wanted to share. I agree with the decision to not put either of you through that, if you're not wired that way. Alas, maturity has very little to do with immediate satisfaction.