You don't have anything else to talk about except identity politics?
It seems that you're basically suggesting that being closeted is a viable option.
1) It's not a viable option for visible minorities. 2) It's not a viable option for anyone who wants things to get better for invisible minorities.
I am not the_xtina, but I am absolutely repelled by the idea that I should be closeted as a way of avoiding questions about what it's like to have my particular set of minority statuses, given that the long-term consequences for myself and people like me would be terrible.
This also places the blame squarely on the people in the minority. "Well, if you weren't different, no one would ask you about your differences!" No. The problem is not all questions and the problem is not that some of us are overtly different from the majority. The problem that members of the majority ask questions poorly. If I closet myself, nothing gets better for me or anyone else: people without privilege don't get equal treatment or legal protections, and people with privilege don't get their heads out of their asses. However, if members of the majority ask thoughtful questions, do research, aren't rude, and listen to the answers, things get better for everyone.
How would we know about a supposedly better mode of interaction if our entire society is sexist?
I'm sure that if you were fed on bread and water once a day while half the people around you ate hearty meals three times a day, it would never occur to you that you were getting the shaft.
Re: I'll be the irritable and long-winded one today.
It seems that you're basically suggesting that being closeted is a viable option.
1) It's not a viable option for visible minorities.
2) It's not a viable option for anyone who wants things to get better for invisible minorities.
I am not
This also places the blame squarely on the people in the minority. "Well, if you weren't different, no one would ask you about your differences!" No. The problem is not all questions and the problem is not that some of us are overtly different from the majority. The problem that members of the majority ask questions poorly. If I closet myself, nothing gets better for me or anyone else: people without privilege don't get equal treatment or legal protections, and people with privilege don't get their heads out of their asses. However, if members of the majority ask thoughtful questions, do research, aren't rude, and listen to the answers, things get better for everyone.
How would we know about a supposedly better mode of interaction if our entire society is sexist?
I'm sure that if you were fed on bread and water once a day while half the people around you ate hearty meals three times a day, it would never occur to you that you were getting the shaft.